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So I was talking to this individual one time and they were saying they wouldn't leave their significant other because of infidelity. They were saying they'd fight as long as the significant other still wants in.

Personally I think she's right somehow. Imagine getting a divorce after years of marriage just because your significant other opened the door of infidelity and let someone shake your marriage. If he still wants to be with me then I'll have to find a way to deal with it not give up on my marriage. I'm the type that would also bring another person if the lonliness is getting too much. Don't judge, I'm only human 😅.

What's your take on this?
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katydidnt · 61-69, F
Consider the case of a wife whose libido rages unabated after learning her husband has been rendered impotent by pharmaceuticals or by accident. Though others might object to her taking action, few could fail to at least understand her thoughts of seeking liaison, just-for-sex, with another man.

If she is offered such opportunity but declines, who of us might nevertheless find her guilty--of glowing with pride and arousal, long-term, along with regret over having missed her moment? Guilty of clinging, long-term, to thoughts of a second chance?

Just for sex, outside an otherwise good marriage? I would counsel her husband against branding her with the mark of infidelity.
I would be less concerned about the physical aspects of cheating and more about the sort of person I was married to.

If a person who is married is having an affair, he’s cheating not one woman but two. He is lying to the mistress about divorcing his wife and lying to his wife, telling her she’s crazy, he’s not cheating.

So already he is a cheater, a liar and a gaslighter. He is using them both for his own pleasure. Add user to his pedigree. (If the cheater is the woman, it’s the same.).

He is also putting both at health risk.

I would have no time for him, accept that I chose wrong and terminate the relationship. Then we’re both free to live as we please.
TexChik · F
Nope ! Infidelity is a deal breaker for me.
lissah · 36-40, F
Nope i would leave. When you fuck someone its intentional. Its not a mistake.
GoFish ·
it's a persons choice if they wish to forgive their spouse or not.. obviously it's not ideal but marriage is more than just a relationship it's a complex contract involving other aspects of life .. how or why the other person got out of line is taken into consideration if the marriage should be bothered to be saved or not .. ideally such a thing would never happen but shit happens when people are selfish and inconsiderate
Softandsweet2 · 36-40, F
I have never been married so I can’t say for certain, but if it was just sex, I can’t see it as that big a deal. People make mistakes. If there is real affection for another and I have to share, it might be different. It would really depend on how strong your love is.
Jenny1234 · 56-60, M
Imagine after years of marriage your significant other decided you weren’t worth enough for them to be faithful
romell · 51-55, M
It all depends on how did it happen,was it one of spontaneous thingy or was it planned over some period of time ,if spontaneous could be considered just sex ,if was planned over time it's betrayal ...
I personally couldn’t stay, been there myself, once trust is gone it’s game over for me.
Convivial · 26-30, F
I think we're all human and make mistakes... I also think monogamy is often like trying to fit the square peg in the round hole... Some people can do, others... Not so much
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
Yes, I agree. It’s just sex. It means nothing.

 
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