Have you or a partner ever been made redundant? And how did you navigate it?

Just a couple? I've seen what happens to a entire region when they are suddenly ruled redundant by a president:


The United States Steel Industry went into a talespin shortly after my stepfather left the airforce and took us home with him to the Ohio Valley. We were often ranked in the top 50 US communities to live in the United States, a democratic union stronghold, and then suddenly the town's population was halved, and while that happened drugs came in. All the kids at my bus stop except me ended up in jail, and eventually every kid in the neighborhood except one other had a felony. My best friend in elementry school broke into a party and broke a bottle and cut a guy's eye out in middle school. If I see anyguy I grew up with walking around, I avoid them, bad people.

The wives all had a split personality. They'd be loving wives to their husbands when confronting politicians and the media and top execa, but you'ld see the same women flip out on their unemployed husbands screaming they were losers. These women turned to drugs. They got divorced. They caused the divorces in EVERY case. The ones who immediately moved away may of faired better, I don't know. But if you stuck around, your woman's angst and hatred at their sudden loss of lifestyle would turn and ruin the relationship. Thing is none of these women were starving, or really poor by real third world standards, it was all up in their heads. Had they been better women, they could of made it work out. Women by instinct are driven to ruin their families lives at the sign of financial hardship. Their sons all ended up in jail.

White flight then took root, alot of black people from Baltimore moved in. There were after a while a sort of low throttle race war, never any big event, just black baltimore racists vs local white racists fighting and running from one another. Chicago gangs moved in to sell drugs and weapons in the area. I almost got shot once.

When the sisters of all the jailed white guys grew up, the attractive ones immediately left, and the ugly or fat ones stayed. They all coupled with the blacks, and all have addictions. The ones who didn't seemed to of drifted away or died of overdoses, or haven't completed their prison sentences yet.

The ability of a family unit to survive depends greatly on the sanity of a woman, and the vast majority of women are not up to task. Their will blame everyone, and especially their husbands in the end. Their children will suffer for it, and no doubt that poverty and torment is carried multiple generations.

My best recommendation is to clamp down on every feminine instinct, don't flip out on him. Help him look for work. Expect him to go into depression if it doesn't immediately work out, and if he leaves for a while to find work don't succumb to your loneliness and Dear John him. A woman must reject her instincts. They are in place in women to get a caveman out of the cave to start looking for game again. Finding a stable job that is able to support a family isn't solved that easily. Women need to be more sophisticated. Very few are. I grew up in that awful, godforsaken aftermath. Men are fairly predictable with their depression phase. It will pass. Don't overdo it on probing him to find something if he feels too helpless in the beginning. He'll come out of it. If he just can't find anything, mortgage or not, I suggest moving.

I've been made redundant twice.
Both times after ten years + employment.

If you have no warning that it's coming it can really shake your confidence.

On a practical level, he needs to apply for any benefits he may be entitled to.
Landlords or mortgage holders need to be paid or you run the serious risk of being evicted from your home.

Then fire up his cv.

Make a list of companies and contacts he may have in his field, and see if he can get a job lead that way first.
Then draw up a list of places to send speculative letters accompanied with his cv.
Keep a list of places sent to with companies who respond.
Nothing more annoying for an HR person than to receive countless inquiries from the same person I'd imagine.

Positive routine is the key.

FIRST: Congratulations on the pregnancy.

Now let's talk about the job thing. Simply put, now is the time to heavily focus on getting those resumes out there. Do not count on anyone or anything (such as his case) to "just happen." Sit down and list those things (in a job) that are most important to you at this stage of your life, then list the opportunities (jobs) that will fulfill those things on your list.

And do the same for yourself..... Your world is about to drastically change. Adapt and conquer...

In the meantime..... explore those things that can benefit your situation in the short term, such as unemployment benefits and any government programs that may be available to expectant women.

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I wish you luck, getting into serious skill update/job hunt mode will motivate him, and relief some of the depression. You can think of it as a "reset" and an opportunity to do what he really wants.

At first was pretty angry and upset. Was depressed as well.Took me a while to get over it.

Modify / tidy up CV and look for jobs on LinkedIn. Have great references.
Ring consultants.

If cashflow is an issue , part time jobs are advisable.

Talk to him. Communication about every thing is important, have confidence in him and it'll help him have confidence in himself.

Redundant ? Solicitors ? Please speak English. Lol