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Have you or a partner ever been made redundant? And how did you navigate it?

My partner has been made redundant. Initially I tried to stay positive to get him focused to start accepting things and looking for other work. Meanwhile his solicitors fought his case for the redundancy package.
It was a shock to us both we just got back from holiday and found out that we're pregnant.

Life that was on a high came crashing down. (at least for me) he reassures me he's fine as he's still employed until it's settled.

He's making use of his time off, playing computer games, baking and catching up with old friends.

But in the month I've noticed his morale and self discipline go out the window.

He's gained weight, has lost some confidence and just seems very unsure.

I'm doing my best to remain positive but with everything else going on inside me, I'm worried that I may say the wrong thing.

I love him and care for him but all of this is completely new to us.

Any advice or words of comfort would really help right now.

Thank you for reading.
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Northwest · M
He's gained weight, has lost some confidence and just seems very unsure.

probably because

playing computer games, baking and catching up with old friends.

I wish you luck, getting into serious skill update/job hunt mode will motivate him, and relief some of the depression. You can think of it as a "reset" and an opportunity to do what he really wants.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Northwest I've sent him job roles similar that I've seen but I also don't want to seem too pushy.

He's mentioned coding. So I'm not entirely sure if that means he'll be doing an unpaid course.

It's a little worrying to me...
Northwest · M
@Mellowgirl You may want to approach gently with this, but he should try to understand what it means to be doing "coding".

I see a lot of resumes from people who think they are "coders". They took paid courses, that gave them an intro to some basic stuff, but they were not "coders".

There are a lot of jobs in the field, that involve project management, or using integrated tools, if he's got the right attitude.