Do you think it’s okay to have lovers if you are married?

Pfft "lovers"... Hoes is the word.

When you marry you make an oath at the altar. An oath is a serious commitment,
a solemn promise that goes to the heart of who you are as a human being. If you then cheat on that oath it is more than just infidelity, it is a betrayal, a dereliction of everything you are as a human being. It shows you to be fundamentally dishonest. It isn't the same for unmarried lovers who cheat, but it appertains to those who agree to marry, make their oaths and then cheat. It doesn't even matter what other people think, it's about the individuals in the marriage and the dishonesty and treachery of one party in that marriage.

As to if it is "okay" to have extramarital lovers, well that is a matter of personal perspective. Generally, society says no, but such is the way of our conditioning. Now on a personal level, I would suggest that it is okay indeed. This not solely because I have strayed myself at times.

That you invoked creative types is not surprising since I believe there is an inherent restlessness that comes with being a creative. This I know well and have indulged far too often. In my own experience an affair can either be a boon or a determent to a marriage, all depending on the approach.

Some couples have open relationships so if they agree then i guess its ok but it would have to be prior discussed

you mean cheating?

[c=800055] [b]For inspiration[/b] or experiment . Yes.

Vita Sackville-West & Harold Nicolson.
The couple had an open marriage. Both Sackville-West and her husband had same-sex relationships before and during their marriage,[/c]

Source : [c=000000][b]Vita & Virginia[/b][/c] , movie, 2018

As long as everyone involved understands the situation have as many lovers as you like. In all things; Honesty.

What makes u feel happy is important. So absolutely it's ok

It depends if you and your partner agree.

No. I do know people I believe may have done so.

No...it almost always ends in disaster

I guess it comes down to the nature of the married relationship. A few people out there are cool with that but I'm betting you'd have a hard time finding anyone who would be cool with it out in the real world.

I think that couples should be free to make their own arrangements, as long as it’s on the up and up, and no one is pressured into it.

If it works in their relationship, yes. I don't believe in 100% sexual monogamy 100% of the time.

I don’t think it is.

No, it's not

Disgusteng!

Nope