I Am Married But Lonely

4 years now without any intimacy. We're basically roommates. I just want to feel loved again. I miss the casual intimacy most. A smile, a hug, the kiss goodbye when I go to work. I've looked outside the marriage and made some amazing friends, but nothing yet to fill the ragged tear in my soul.

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SW-User

So what happened that lead her to withdraw from you?

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SW-User

@authorArt: Its your life and you have the right to live as you desire. Have seen couples in similar circumstances for decades and they stand by each other. I wish you both the best life. I truly do.

authorArt · 56-60, M

Thank you, I appreciate that. I have seen couples in similar circumstances. You'd be amazed at how many, usually on both sides of the relationship, have to find something outside the marriage that makes them feel complete. Thank you again.

authorArt · 56-60, M

A combination of things, I think. Life long bouts of depression (she's in therapy), empty nest, hormonal changes etc.

petitenotions9 · 36-40, F

I hope you'll find what you're looking for ☹️ and find happiness along with it.. or her 🙂

SagePoet · 70-79, M

Exactly the same thing happening with my marraige, sexless, divorce on the horizon but after we go our separate ways we're gonna try it a second time, she is seeing someone else now and again and I'm not, for now.

authorArt · 56-60, M

My wife doesn't know what she wants right now and that leaves me in limbo. I've tried filling the hole in my heart outside the marriage, but no luck so far. I've got to find a way to get her to commit on way or the other

sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M

well, we don't know the whole story.

i'm sure there's many factors which lead to this.

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

Keep trying.. outside your marriage.. to make meaningful contact..
I realize that you HAVE been trying for a long time, but it WILL come to you...
Good Luck.. I've been where you are and it is not fun...

authorArt · 56-60, M

Thanks, I will. I appreciate the boost.

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@authorArt: I believe in POLYANDRY and POLYAMORY.. as a solution to the problems with MONOGAMY..

authorArt · 56-60, M

I agree. Interactions with other women and men as well has helped. I just haven't found the right situation to fill the hole in my heart.

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