I Am Married But Lonely

I think it was a combination of things. Empty nest syndrome, depression (she's seeing a therapist now), Old emotional wounds that never healed etc. We get along day to day, but she can't seem to progress past that and back into intimacy.

I hope you can hang in there and wait for her healing

@JustImagine: I've lived with her longer than I have without her. I'll hang in there.

@authorArt: Don't you think, she needs your support under her circumstances ?

She does, and I give what she will allow. Everyone needs a support structure though and that includes me. She can't give that right now.

@authorArt: I don't agree fully with you. We all know before entering relationship that health can play a twisted role in later stages. She is not doing it with her will to disturb you. She is rather suffering and under such circumstance, what would you be like if you were in her place?

@YOLO1: I've been in this marriage for 27 years. I've been with her longer than I've been without her, and there is too much water under that particular bridge to rehash here. You can't know what we have or haven't done to disturb each other in that amount of time. I appreciate you conviction, but don't presume to know how I should act. Altruism seldom makes it through the fire of real life.

@authorArt: Its your life and you have the right to live as you desire. Have seen couples in similar circumstances for decades and they stand by each other. I wish you both the best life. I truly do.

Thank you, I appreciate that. I have seen couples in similar circumstances. You'd be amazed at how many, usually on both sides of the relationship, have to find something outside the marriage that makes them feel complete. Thank you again.

A combination of things, I think. Life long bouts of depression (she's in therapy), empty nest, hormonal changes etc.