I Am Married But Lonely

That is why I hug my wife often, have long mornings in bed snuggling on days off and tell her how great she looks every day. It works great for both of us as we do not get bored or think of playing around. We have been married 23 yr.s and worked together for 13 before we were married.

After 7 years of that loneliness and the broken trust I left and we divorced. Would rather be lonely alone then in a farce.

As a divorced guy, I say to try everything possible(don't know if you have) before you give up, because divorce is an expensive, time-consuming, expensive, stressful, angering, depressing pain in the ass. I'm of the opinion that married people sometimes get lost. I don't judge, just be careful if you stray, because of course you will respond like a teenager to a new person who shows interest in you, and that can permanently mess up things at home.

Do the things you enjoy doing, a hobby or spend time with your friends.

It doesn't mean drowning in loneliness, bad behaviour takes two, one to implement it and one to allow..the minute there is an issue you should address it or it will become a major problem.

Why not divorce? No gulit that way

I'm not married nor would I call myself lonely,nor content.

Marriage is not supposed to be lonely, thats all I do know. I've never had a good example of a good marriage so I wouldn't really know what to expect.

You have to make romance. Make sex fun again...a game. Make him chase you a little. To many men the excitement is in the chase!
I wish you luck...

I cope by taking care of myself and following my passions and interests. I am not having an affair. I'm not being abused or anything. We don't fight. I miss a lot of things. So I started giving myself some of those things. Sounds silly to call myself a hot mama in the mirror but it makes me smile. I go on trips alone or with my kids and grandkids. I make sure I feel healthy and look my best for my own satisfaction. I also enjoy photography, nature walks, sitting in the porch swing watching the creek, journaling, and learning new things. Still alone but the busy days help me feel less lonely. It does creep up now and then. Like today.

Its become a marriage of convenience now as we hardly spend time together that way.

I guess part of my situation is that I also do not have a friend or friends group to spend time with otherwise. Might as well learn to love myself since I'm the only one here... Lol.

It's true. Loneliness should not be a part of marriage.

I would never cheat on my love. But everyone is different.

The frustrating thing with marriage is that it takes two people to make it work, but if you don't voice your concerns you are going to find yourself in a lonely state. I know I miss feeling desired and getting attention, but you are only frustrating yourself if you don't express it.

How and why have passion, romance, lust and attention gone missing? Do can your husband you bring it back?

I understand your statement but I think there are two different things at play here. Loneliness would suggest that you have poor communication with your husband and have little in common. Missing passion, romance and lust is something else, and is something that many of us experience, even if we love our partner. As for the answer..............

how about hang with friends...?

Sorry you feel this way ! Sorry that it actually happens ! But the sad truth is it does, and alot ! And not always gender bias!but what you need to do is do for you make you feel good and let the cards where they may

I can relate totally. I haven't had any affairs, but if the right woman came onto me, not sure what I would do.

obviously not a woman, but i'm gonna answer anyway. Sites like this is how i get around the lonely.

There are lots of different opinions. All I know is I hurt. After 45 years we got nothing

sorry for your pain - hope it has gotten better

Know exactly what you mean.