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I Am Married But Lonely

To all the married ladies, how do you cope with loneliness? ...to all the ones who’s having an affair , how do you deal with it and the guilt?
To those who are married and have a sugar daddy .., how ???
Reason am asking is ..... I miss the passion , romance ... lust ... attention... being in a company with someone who is present... never expected that marriage actually means drowning in loneliness..

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

As a divorced guy, I say to try everything possible(don't know if you have) before you give up, because divorce is an expensive, time-consuming, expensive, stressful, angering, depressing pain in the ass. I'm of the opinion that married people sometimes get lost. I don't judge, just be careful if you stray, because of course you will respond like a teenager to a new person who shows interest in you, and that can permanently mess up things at home.

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Mguinm · 51-55, F

@uncalled4 very insightful

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mguinm Thanks. I wish I didn't have to go through it in order to mention it. I have zero idea if the OP has gone through any dealbreakers. Again, no point in judging, but I have always had dealbreakers.

Room66 · 36-40, F

@uncalled4 I am not thinking of divorce and Don’t want to hurt him ... it’s just sometimes I feel like a furniture.. I am only there for comforting him when things goes wrong or if he needs an opinion in work related stuff ...

Mguinm · 51-55, F

@uncalled4 I'm sorry you had to go through all that as well but I hope it will help others.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mguinm Thanks, but I am way down the road from that, thankfully, and yes, I do try to at least warn people. Society sells "divorce" as this thing where people end up dancing in the streets. I thought it sucked. Another big lie.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Room66 I'm only assuming you have sat his ass down and tried to verbally beat some sense into him(male brain only works that way). It may take time, and you may not want to put that in. If you can talk it through with a professional, I recommend finding a GOOD therapist(some are really awful) and working it out, because once you're all up in someone else, you can't unring that bell.

Mguinm · 51-55, F

@uncalled4 I went through a painful divorce also but it wasn't expensive or messy so that was good. Just emotionally draining and it took several years to fully recover.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mguinm I ended up with the house because I pulled legal maneuvers you only see in Harrison Ford movies. The whole thing took close to 2 years, but that final legal nail was devastating. If it were not for my friends, I have no idea how I would have gotten through. I did begin seeing women soon after, which seemed like a good idea at the time.

Mguinm · 51-55, F

@uncalled4 lol@ Harrison Ford movies. Wow you got the house that is very rare. Congratulations!

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mguinm Posting from it right now. Boom!

Mguinm · 51-55, F

@uncalled4 Booyahhhh!!

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mguinm Yep. I went through it and wouldn't change a thing, because sometimes another person chooses your path....and you respond in kind.
The best part is I learned to be by myself.
The worst part is I learned to be by myself.

Mguinm · 51-55, F

@uncalled4 Wow at the last two lines.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mguinm Thanks. Draw your own conclusions.

Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F

@uncalled4 Is that not the truth about learning to be by yourself.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Sinnerwithaheart Yes. It can actually work against one if one is not careful. That is my experience.

Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F

@uncalled4 Yes I completely agree having been there myself.

LightPinkLace · 56-60, C

I don’t think there is ever a perfect solution. Regardless of which path a couple takes, it never leaves you 100% happy, I don’t care what anyone says. A couple must do what makes sense for them, not what society feels is the right answer. @uncalled4

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@LightPinkLace Not sure I made any of the points you are addressing.

LightPinkLace · 56-60, C

I was agreeing with your point about divorce, in a roundabout way.@uncalled4

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@LightPinkLace Ah. Does make sense. I do wish everyone in that situation the best.

LightPinkLace · 56-60, C

Sorry you had to go through what you did. I wish you peace, love and happiness.@uncalled4

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@LightPinkLace Thank you. The very same to you. :)

LightPinkLace · 56-60, C

Thank you. I am trying my best everyday! @uncalled4

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@LightPinkLace It gets easier.

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