I Am Married But Lonely

Married 30+ years and I feel that the only purpose I have is to maintain my wife. It feels like the room mate that I have to cover

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PoetryNEmotion · F

Sounds sexless. I don't think marriage = roommates. Sounds like she has a free ride. You have choices. Live this way until one of you dies. Or divorce and be free. Find someone else. Or cheat. I don't recommend this. Or have an open relationship. Chances are if you are married this long and your wife is the refuser, she won't agree to it. Many people are starting over at your age. Consult a lawyer. Freedom is a clear choice. I did it. Others have. Think on it.

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SageWanderer · 70-79, M

@PoetryNEmotion The only regret that I have from the first marriage was I didn't do it sooner. I tried to save things for the sake of a child. Until I saw the child was getting destroyed too.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SageWanderer Exactly. That is my only regret from my first marriage-that I stayed so long and tried to fix something that wasn't my fault. Children don't need parents who don't love one another. They don't need to live in an atmosphere like that. That is not an example to role model to them. And after the children have gone? Why should two people live unhappily until the day one of them dies? Choices.