Is it better to wait until marriage before having sexual intimacy?

I feel like there are some benefits: getting to know each other and fall in love without the pressures of physical intimacy. No unplanned pregnancies ( hopefully people use family planning and contraception after the wedding takes place so no unintended pregnancies then or get sterilized before the wedding if they don’t want children. ) . There are more legal protections in a marriage. It’s just less risky all around. It takes a lot of patience and practice in self control. On the other hand, some people say sexual compatibility might be an issue discovered later. Your thoughts? I personally think waiting until marriage before you have full fledged sexual intimacy is romantic and sweet. Sure it’s old fashioned but it can also give you something to look forward to in your love life. It just depends on what the person wants and is looking for.

Renkon · M

Waiting until marriage can be a healthy and meaningful choice if both partners truly want it.
It can help you build emotional closeness, trust, and self-control without the pressure of sex.

You are right that it reduces risks like unplanned pregnancy and gives more stability and legal protection.

The concern about sexual compatibility is real, but it can often be worked through with communication, patience, and mutual care.

What matters most is that both people share the same values and expectations.
There is no one “right” way for everyone.
If waiting feels loving, respectful, and joyful to you and your partner, then it is a good choice.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Would you wait until you’re married to find out if your future husband was gainfully employed?

Would you wait to find out if you’re religiously compatible?

Why the fixation with sex? It’s only religious doctrine that tells you it’s wrong. So now we’re talking about theoretically celibate people, who are often hiding their sexual proclivity, that are telling you what to do. Their teachings haven’t changed in hundreds of years. And, as a woman, they don’t even respect you enough to hold their higher offices…

Have sex. Be safe. Live your life.

exexec · 70-79, C

I waited, but my wife didn't. I wish I had not waited, but she is glad that I did. Confused yet?