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Do you think I did the right thing?

So my husband took a mental health break and everyone was worried about him. He didn’t wanna be bothered by anyone. I was the only person that knew where he was or if he’s okay or not. I told everyone that he is alive and not dead, he’s doing okay. People thought something happened to him. He told me “thanks for not putting me out”. By making the social media post and allowing people to see it, certain people got the hint that he didn’t wanna be bothered by them anymore. He’s doing okay but just off the grid right now. Even though he say I didn’t cross any boundaries I’m just nervous that he saying this just because. I just made the post public and I was his biggest cheerleader on Facebook. I am his biggest supporter and helper. I’m not leaving his side. I just let people know he’s alive, nothing more. Do you think I did the right thing?
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Sidewinder · 36-40, M Best Comment
Practically all the time I ask myself whether or not I've "done the right thing."

And reading this, I'm sure you've done the right thing.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@Sidewinder this made me smile and feel so joyful. Thanks so much for this

PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
I did it because me and my husband take care of each other. I know when I made the post it would bring mixed reactions. However I was ready for it because his well being is important. I’m his biggest cheerleader. He deserves to have nothing but the best. He deserves to have only love and peace around him. He don’t deserve to have negative people around him. He deserve to keep feeling well. Now people know he’s alive and well, it’s like they hate him. They were okay thinking he was dead but their feelings changed once knowing he’s okay. He deserve to have positive surroundings regardless of what people think of him. I’m gonna continue being there for him
@PlaygirlDizzy those reactions are appalling. He's lucky to have your support though and is better off without those who wish him misery.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@NerdyPotato I almost cried reading this thank you so much
If he doesn't mind, I don't see the problem. It certainly makes sense to prevent rumors.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@NerdyPotato I really do thank you for this I really do. I didn’t think about it that way
Sapio · 51-55, M
I think you did the right thing.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@Sapio I thank you so much
updown2020 · 61-69, M
Yes you did the right thing because you were only fafilling his wishes. It not your place to tell otherwise because if you went against his wishes well you become a problem to him instead of a alie .
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@updown2020 thank you for this
Picklebobble2 · 61-69, M
He chose his 'exile' but that doesn't mean others weren't going to be concerned for his welfare having excommunicated himself.

I think you did right.
Ontheroad · M
I think what you did is sensible and should help quell the rumors. Don't know what your husband will think, but I see no harm done.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@Ontheroad I thank you for this! Yes it does!
Yes I think you did an excellent job
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@darkknightt thank you so much! I definitely love my husband
@PlaygirlDizzy lucky guy
smiler2012 · 61-69
@PlaygirlDizzy 🤔well you have took the right actions and stood by your husband in his hour of need as your wedding vows say in sickness and it health
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@smiler2012 thank you so much
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@Dignaga thank you so much
JestAJester · 31-35, M
All you can do is support him. Be that one person he can confidently rely on. He is battling demons right now, things you can't imagine. Be the kind of woman that sticks with him through thick and thin
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@JestAJester thank you so much!!! Yes I’m that woman!! Thank you again
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@PlaygirlDizzy THen you're one of the good ones. I hope he sees that
Orca4950 · 70-79, M
otherwise someone might call the authorities and then the stress level would climb. he doesn't want that
While you didn't do the contrary of putting him out, making the post public by itself invites a lot of attention.

Best would have been to vanish from facebook, as social media does invite a lot of attention and trouble that people prefer to stay away from.

Peace is staying away from all sorts of mayhem and eyes.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@in10RjFox I thank you for this. I didn’t know I was gonna receive overwhelming support from police officers, coworkers, a few army soldiers, and supervisors. I was worried but I am glad I did it now. My husband deserves peace, love, happiness, and nobody around him that wish ill on him. People were wearing his faces on tshirts and having parties. They were happy he’s dead but when they found out he was alive, all feelings changed. I care about my husband and I deeply want him to know that I have his back. His wife is gonna take care of all the people that thought they were gonna win over him. I wanna take the stress level off him. Facebook was the only way because it was a lot of people that were involved with calling him “bro” and even saying happy heavenly birthday. I announced it and those very people are upset. My husband deserves better and I am gonna take stress levels away from him however I can. I’m his wife and those people ain’t gonna make a fool out of him.
@PlaygirlDizzy way to go. You have understood all the rights of wife, for a couple is an entity and gender by itself which was unrealised. You have the full right to act on his behalf.

All the best and do let me know if you need any suggestions or moral support.
Umile · 41-45, F
Nmh.

You did good.

Give him his space.

Let him regroup.
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@Umile thank you so much! He’s happy that I did that because I didn’t want him to feel alone or to feel like he’s going through this alone. He’s happy that he lost friends and even hated. He knew he didn’t have friends from the beginning. I just wanna stand in and help him release that pressure of knowing that he probably will have to deal with these so called family members of friends.
wetncthru · F
I hope so, but postings can be misinterpreted ...
PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F
@wetncthru he’s very happy and I’m happy. I actually have an update that I will post shortly
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
I really think you have
A brave decision
shakemeup · 36-40
Sounds good. idk
Alex51 · 61-69, M
You prevent rumors

 
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