Do you think I did the right thing?

So my husband took a mental health break and everyone was worried about him. He didn’t wanna be bothered by anyone. I was the only person that knew where he was or if he’s okay or not. I told everyone that he is alive and not dead, he’s doing okay. People thought something happened to him. He told me “thanks for not putting me out”. By making the social media post and allowing people to see it, certain people got the hint that he didn’t wanna be bothered by them anymore. He’s doing okay but just off the grid right now. Even though he say I didn’t cross any boundaries I’m just nervous that he saying this just because. I just made the post public and I was his biggest cheerleader on Facebook. I am his biggest supporter and helper. I’m not leaving his side. I just let people know he’s alive, nothing more. Do you think I did the right thing?

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in10RjFox · MVIP

While you didn't do the contrary of putting him out, making the post public by itself invites a lot of attention.

Best would have been to vanish from facebook, as social media does invite a lot of attention and trouble that people prefer to stay away from.

Peace is staying away from all sorts of mayhem and eyes.

PlaygirlDizzy · 31-35, F

@in10RjFox I thank you for this. I didn’t know I was gonna receive overwhelming support from police officers, coworkers, a few army soldiers, and supervisors. I was worried but I am glad I did it now. My husband deserves peace, love, happiness, and nobody around him that wish ill on him. People were wearing his faces on tshirts and having parties. They were happy he’s dead but when they found out he was alive, all feelings changed. I care about my husband and I deeply want him to know that I have his back. His wife is gonna take care of all the people that thought they were gonna win over him. I wanna take the stress level off him. Facebook was the only way because it was a lot of people that were involved with calling him “bro” and even saying happy heavenly birthday. I announced it and those very people are upset. My husband deserves better and I am gonna take stress levels away from him however I can. I’m his wife and those people ain’t gonna make a fool out of him.

in10RjFox · MVIP

@PlaygirlDizzy way to go. You have understood all the rights of wife, for a couple is an entity and gender by itself which was unrealised. You have the full right to act on his behalf.

All the best and do let me know if you need any suggestions or moral support.