Will my husband really change after cheating multiple times?

I found out my husband of 2 years (together for 11 years) has cheated on me through out our relationship, engagement and marriage. Mostly with online women and onlyfans. After I found out, he said he's very sorry and he's going to change (he didn't tell me about any of it, I found it all out myself) he's showing me that he's changing but I don't trust him, should I believe him or should I leave????

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twistedrope · 26-30, M

I have some experience with this. Probably not.

Cheating is such a poor hurtful thing to do. It is in fact so poor that it is difficult to accept a cheater does it so they make excuses or gaslight and victimize themselves.

I like the book "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide" which opened my eyes quite a bit. A taster is on the website chumplady.com

I trust a promise to change is pretty much all it is. Just a promise. Change takes years and sticking about while you watch him fail and relapse multiple times,as is expected in recovery is really not something you should stick around for. In this case I'm being generous as to the future prospect and it's still not worth sticking around.

atlantic59 · 61-69, M

@twistedrope first steps eventually get somewhere