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For the guys who are married or want to get married, are prenups ideal if things go down south?

I'd definitely sign up one. I wouldn't want a woman who would take half of what I own if a divorce happens.

Eternity · 26-30, M Best Comment

Best thing to do is just not get married. There is no reason for it.

There is no right that marriage can afford either party that cannot be given to them by the other without being married.

Sign them into your will, designate them as someone who can act and speak on your behalf if you are incapable of doing so, get a joint bank account, have kids and claim them as dependents, cosign on loans, etc.

All these things provide the same leverage as being married but without actually being married.

There's just no reason to do it. Its a status symbol that a lot of women just want because society has conditioned them to want it but in the end it serves nothing but to potentially bite you in the ass if shit goes south (and most of the time it does).

If she really loves you then love should be enough; otherwise, she's just after something.

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Eternity · 26-30, M

@DearAmbellina2113 well if its important to you then yall may want to have that discussion

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Eternity yeah 😬

Threepio

@DearAmbellina2113 [quote] If my bf ended up in the hospital in a coma and I wasn't allowed to visit bc I'm not his wife, etc. [/quote]

I believe this can be accomplished by having a properly completed "ADVANCED DIRECTIVES" and a "LIVING WILL". These forms are available for downloading on the internet.

Ynotisay · M

I have a friend who's a pretty prominent divorce attorney with a specific focus on men's rights. He's gay, and not a woman-basher, but gets disgusted with the system.

He's told me that marriages with pre-nups last longer. I believe that. It's an adult decision that acknowledges reality. The problem is the pre-nup usually comes on the second marriage which means one partner, not always male, is paying big.

But he drove a point home to me that I won't forget. [b]In the eyes of the law marriage is a business contract[/b]. And that's 100% true. I can't think of one other contract that people would enter in to without some type of safety net. But it happens with marriage. He also said, "The person you marry is not the person you divorce." A lot of truth to that too.

SW-User

How would you feel if she makes more money than you do?

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@SW-User It wouldn't really matter if that's the case, it never crossed my mind. If she makes money, that's cool. If she wants expensive stuff, then it's her choice to get it and not mine.

PhoenixPhail · M

@SW-User That wouldn't be an issue, at all.

Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25

Not in America

Prenups can be negated under certain conditions last time I heard

I advise not getting legally married

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Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25

@Ynotisay that's about how I view it too

And perhaps they got me. I dunno.

However, you could maybe read a bit more carefully in my response to see I warn against red pill.

Would you like to have a conversation about the movements, our experiences, impacts, thoughts, and analyses? Because I'd actually enjoy a gentlemanly conversation to address all the points you raised and some more

Ynotisay · M

@Iwantyourhotwife Perhaps I misunderstood. The word alone was enough for me. And thanks for the conservation invite but I'll pass. I have no interest in topics surrounding faux-grievance and blame. Have a good one.

Iwantyourhotwife · 22-25

@Ynotisay you too man. Have a great day

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

My brother's ex wife took him for 25K because he didn't get one. Her literal words when he cut the check "you shoulda had a prenup" ...vile woman.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@Starcrossed What a nice woman. Not really. Jokes aside, she didn't really love him in a sense.

SW-User

No most people don’t have anything when they get married, only a few memories and maybe a car. Most couples buy a house and get anything of value together.

PoetryNEmotion · F

Sounds like you have already doomed yourself.

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xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@PoetryNEmotion I don't know where slavery comes from if I wanted a woman who would love me for who I am and not having her to feel like she's controlled, but that's basically what you're saying. And I'm not sure if you understood how the other side of the world can have traditional women who wouldn't mind cooking, cleaning, having kids, being brought up to respect men, and also speak very good English like the people from the Philippines, Korea, Thailand, France, or even Japan.

And by me choosing to stay single isn't out of fear, it's literally my choice. And if you say that I'm negative when I have my standards, going off by statistics, and choosing to marry women outside of our country, then that's your choice to form an opinion. I'll remain single until I'm ready for a woman who's feminine, friendly, and submissive. I'm game if she carries traits of how women are meant to be.

Also, giving to right places to look at, stats and data can help. 🤷🏾‍♂️

PoetryNEmotion · F

@xSiFiGamer2016x Submissive. Slave. Hope you can afford one. Smh. Ridiculous.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@PoetryNEmotion And I'm the negative one, yet you talking about women in other countries being slaves for men and no knowledge about these women. Make it make sense. 🤦🏾‍♂️

SStarfish ·

I think prenups are insulting.. if you don't want to give your whole life and everything you own to someone. Then you shouldn't marry them at all

SW-User

And maybe she wouldn't want to give you half of hers. Anything you were to buy jointly, a house for example, would be split between you, even if you're not married.

nacnud · 31-35, M

With the reservations you have do ask yourself why you want to get married. It is a big commitment and must not be taken lightly. If you know people who have been married a long time ask for their advice.

After you get married there will be times when things get hard (they will) it is the vows and commitments you say to one another that you will look back on.

If you both are unsure what each other wants I'd recommend organising a will early on. It will give peace of mind if nothing else.

Nomad7 · 22-25, M

Course I would. With the divorce rates as high as they are, it only makes sense to do that. No pre-nup, no wedding, sorry

AtticEscapee

People who enter into a marriage with a sense of distrust should not get married.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@AtticEscapee Basically saves years of time AND money.

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

They’re not the most romantic thing but they can be a good idea.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@StevetheSleeve Yeah, a lot of women wouldn't want a prenup. I see that now. But if prenups are like a problem, then the chance of marriage is already failing.

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

If I don't trust her, I'm not even being friends with her let alone taking it any further.

SW-User

Don't get married
Problem solved

BiasForAction · M

I’m ok with the concept

Tminus6453 · M

Yes... do it!

anythingoes477 · M

Divorce odds are now better than 50-50 hat you will get one within the first year. If those odds aren't reason to have a pre-nip..........what is?

BeefySenpie · M

If there are dissimilar amounts of wealth coming in, they’re not unreasonable by any means

xSiFiGamer2016x · 22-25, M

@BeefySenpie What do you mean?

exexec · 61-69, C

We never considered a prenup, but when we married, we were poor and had nothing but our college diplomas.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

She’s getting half, or more.

A penis doesn’t stand up in court.

Been there. 🫤

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

I'm definitely getting one. Been through divorce before. Besides, she's most likely getting everything when I take a dirt nap.

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