Is anyone truly happy in a marriage?

Similar things one of my friend told me, I don't know if he would ever find that someone which he thinks he can get old with. I can understand, the concern is genuine.

I have seen many (Indian)couple who are not fully compatible with their partners, they quarrel now and then, they keep complaining it also. But when it comes to taking divorce, there is a big NO, from both sides. I was talking about older generation.

Three of my cousins already got divorce in their thirties. Being a cousin and uncle to them, I feel very bad for not being able to help in anyway. One of my dearest cousin, she has completely devoted herself into her job and Ph.D. And her little daughter talks like a mature person.

I don't know how true the below notion stands true these days.

[i]"A great relationship is about two things, appreciating the similarities and respecting the differences."[/i]

Depends on the foundation marriage rests upon I think.

That person to grow old with. Honestly, I think they'll need to be my best friend. That loyal comradery that's always there... whether near or far, through the beautiful and ugly, the wise moments and stupid moments🤭. They don't weigh your strengths and weaknesses against each other... they just accept all of you, because they're cool with you like that.

Yep, that's the person I want to be sitting on the porch sipping coffee with when I'm 70 years old. My best friend... the one I've also been blessed to share the deepest moments of love and intimacy with.

Life is constant battle and marriage is the choice to not fight that battle alone. To make life easier, more comfortable for one another. That's how happiness happens in a marriage, when both parties Keep their end of the bargain to cater to each other.

34 years. Still going. Yes, there's ups and downs, periods of listlessness, my compass off track, but divorce is not in my vocabulary.

My future ex-daughter-in-law, on the other hand, has a rude awaking coming.
Divorce Is War! And it's about to get tactical. Nuclear.

🤔 My best friend and her hubby are generally pretty happy, but they also knew who they were marrying and the issues they were signing up for that they’d both eventually need to gradually work through for it to be a life-long partnership. They both entered that marriage ready to work on themselves, hear each other out, and be a team through the less expected hardships and changes. This is very different than the people I know who have unhappy marriages where they were kinda delusional about what/who they were marrying lol then they act surprised.

I understand what you mean. I'm happily married to my wife and we're both in an open relationship - we both work in the sex industry - and never feel the need to gush about our relationship all on social media.

We're pretty private. Keep ourselves to ourselves. Happy in the knowledge that we do love each other and that's all that matters - we know, but does it really matter if other people know or not?

I'm not going to lose sleep over that question.

🤔

Different cultures my ex wife said she hated me telling her I loved her (I also took care of our daughter every day) she one day said she hated hearing say I love you hugs and kisses if I loved her I would give her money for casino. I said I do not waste my money their all my money goes to pay the bills of the house and pay for stuff for our daughter.

It’s all about trust in a relationship. When you are committed to each other, it should develop with care and nurturing each other. Trust develops over time, with open mind. I was in a happy, trusting relationship until my wife passed away. We had created our own loving world together.

I think my son and his wife are. They have so much fun together. They fret over not having kids because of the cost but kids are so much stress. Better that they just keep enjoying life.

[quote]Is anyone truly happy in a marriage?[quote][/quote][/quote]

I am!
Been with my partner for 10 years and i still sometimes am overcome with love just thinking about them😍

No if I am honest looking back I wasnt happy for many years . It was only once I was out of the situation did I realise how bad things had got . I should have left years ago .

But what happens when one is old, has arthritis and can't move much?

I think some people are easier to live with than others and some couples are more compatible.

There will always be both pros and cons of both aspects of life.

It's not easy. I guess that's the price you pay for companionship.

[quote]Those lovey dovey messages on social media is such farce. If you love someone there's no need to display it to the world.[/quote] All for show.

Yeah I am…🥳🥳🥳🥳

Paul McCartney said, "It doesn't work out if you don't work at it", and that makes perfect sense.

I just think marriage is a made up thing from governments to pass on the responsibility of who pays to look after you or or partner first.