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I Know Marriage Life Isn't Easy

I was with my friends and we were talking about marriage. I was shocked that some of them slowed down in their bedroom activities (once/twice a year on average). I asked them if they are willing to share their husbands with other ladies, they said a big NO!... hmmm, then why reduce bedtime activities? I know it is darn important, at least for me.
The reduction in bedtime activities isn't always a result of the woman declining her man's interest - in some cases, the man himself just loses interest in his partner - then there's the host of other things that can go wrong that also lead to a decline in sexual activity between the couple.

In general, though, it's not fair to lay the blame for decline in bedroom activities squarely on the woman's shoulders since it takes two to be active in the bedroom.
@Pygmy That's up to them to sit their man down and talk to him. Men aren't always mind readers that know what their woman wants.
Pygmy · 36-40, F
@HootyTheNightOwl hmm well, I was concerned. I can't dig more and screw up their marriage because I tend to be direct at times. I agree with you, communication is very important.
@Pygmy Sadly, most of the time, both partners need to be working on the same issues for problems to be resolved and in cases where there isn't an equal workload, it can be common for the party who is putting in the lion's share of the work to lose interest and give up when their efforts are shunned or unappreciated.

That's what can spell the end of an otherwise beautiful marriage.
justanothername · 51-55, M
Sometimes life just gets in the way of stuff in the bedroom
AnneHoney · 41-45, F
justanothername · 51-55, M
@AnneHoney Yes indeed they do.
Jonjdw · 51-55, M
Most women are crazy. Maybe you are not. Nice to meet you.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
That doesn't sound right at all.. Are they just having sex alone or not having any sex at all? Once or twice a year, we talking birthday sex or what? Sounds like they need to get on a better schedule!
Pygmy · 36-40, F
@GerOttman haha I think so. Birthday sex or new year sex perhaps. But it is really worrying because they were so happy that their husbands aren't bugging them for sex anymore. To me that is a red flag there.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
@Pygmy I know there is no one right answer for the question of how often to have sex, it's always great in the beginning. Kids and careers can often leave little time for the sort of real intimacy that was once so satisfying. There was a time when the wife had little interest and I worked too many hours. It has kind of rebounded now that the situation has changed. Things sometimes work out in time!
Pygmy · 36-40, F
@GerOttman Yea. But also, time waits for no man. And we have a lot of apps and people we meet daily, it is easy to go to the wrong way. It is a struggle! 😅
AnneHoney · 41-45, F
I wonder what happens to some people
ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M
It's got to be said... the average male doesn't give two hoots about making sex an activity that appeals to women too. They want what they want - how they want it - when they want it - and if they don't get that at home they'll quite happily look for it elsewhere.

Women on the other hand generally seem to prefer a more intimate "relationship" style love making, and rightly so imo. If you can do the whole thing from start to finish in two minutes flat where the hell's the bonding in that.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
Once or twice a year would be heaven. It`s been 15 years for me.
Pygmy · 36-40, F
@Degbeme :/ I am sorry to hear that.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Pygmy Thank you.
pdqsailor1 · 61-69, M
My Wife decided many years ago that we were going to make love each morning. This was never my idea. In the beginning I was quite concerned. I had no idea if I could perform to her expectations and worse was concerned it was going to get boring or stale. My concerns were misplaced.. Attitude and a in our case an extensive lingerie wardrobe have kept things fresh. I look forward to making love with her each and EVERY day.
doodatt · 61-69, M
Im horny everyday.

 
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