I Know Marriage Life Isn't Easy

I was with my friends and we were talking about marriage. I was shocked that some of them slowed down in their bedroom activities (once/twice a year on average). I asked them if they are willing to share their husbands with other ladies, they said a big NO!... hmmm, then why reduce bedtime activities? I know it is darn important, at least for me.

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HootyTheNightOwl

The reduction in bedtime activities isn't always a result of the woman declining her man's interest - in some cases, the man himself just loses interest in his partner - then there's the host of other things that can go wrong that also lead to a decline in sexual activity between the couple.

In general, though, it's not fair to lay the blame for decline in bedroom activities squarely on the woman's shoulders since it takes two to be active in the bedroom.

AnneHoney · 36-40, F

Not always.@HootyTheNightOwl

Pygmy · 36-40, F

@HootyTheNightOwl I understand that completely. I am in such marriage where my husband usually "too tired". But in their case, they themselves declined it, resulting to the husbands not being "playful" anymore. I guess I did not disclose that in the post. My bad.

AnneHoney · 36-40, F

Guy. Your age that only wants sex twice a year? I’m guessing he is getting off in another way.@Pygmy

Pygmy · 36-40, F

@AnneHoney Ikr? I would get pissed if he is up to no good behind my back. Because I always initiate it and he would be the one that says no. I guess he has a very very low drive. That, or gay.

HootyTheNightOwl

@Pygmy That's up to them to sit their man down and talk to him. Men aren't always mind readers that know what their woman wants.

Pygmy · 36-40, F

@HootyTheNightOwl hmm well, I was concerned. I can't dig more and screw up their marriage because I tend to be direct at times. I agree with you, communication is very important.

HootyTheNightOwl

@Pygmy Sadly, most of the time, both partners need to be working on the same issues for problems to be resolved and in cases where there isn't an equal workload, it can be common for the party who is putting in the lion's share of the work to lose interest and give up when their efforts are shunned or unappreciated.

That's what can spell the end of an otherwise beautiful marriage.