I Know Marriage Life Isn't Easy

I was with my friends and we were talking about marriage. I was shocked that some of them slowed down in their bedroom activities (once/twice a year on average). I asked them if they are willing to share their husbands with other ladies, they said a big NO!... hmmm, then why reduce bedtime activities? I know it is darn important, at least for me.

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GerOttman · 61-69, M

That doesn't sound right at all.. Are they just having sex alone or not having any sex at all? Once or twice a year, we talking birthday sex or what? Sounds like they need to get on a better schedule!

Pygmy · 36-40, F

@GerOttman haha I think so. Birthday sex or new year sex perhaps. But it is really worrying because they were so happy that their husbands aren't bugging them for sex anymore. To me that is a red flag there.

GerOttman · 61-69, M

@Pygmy I know there is no one right answer for the question of how often to have sex, it's always great in the beginning. Kids and careers can often leave little time for the sort of real intimacy that was once so satisfying. There was a time when the wife had little interest and I worked too many hours. It has kind of rebounded now that the situation has changed. Things sometimes work out in time!

Pygmy · 36-40, F

@GerOttman Yea. But also, time waits for no man. And we have a lot of apps and people we meet daily, it is easy to go to the wrong way. It is a struggle! 😅