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Whats your advice regarding marriage

I recently got married, what do you think of marriage and any useful tip lol
JohnYahYah · 61-69, M
I think you should have asked for advice beforehand.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@JohnYahYah lol, not too late
Unlearn · 41-45, M
@JohnYahYah lol...
lostinspice · 51-55, F
I've got another one. If you have kids, everything changes. Priorities, feelings, the pecking order, who does which jobs. Be considerate if this happens. It's massively hard finding your way as a new patent without your spouse sulking about things or withdrawing. You have to carve out your own parenting role and take charge from time to time without undermining the other person. It's very difficult.
lostinspice · 51-55, F
Well let's hope so. Are you both living with your family or just together? That can be an extra source of friction.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
Well we are living with her own families, not like together, i agreed for this brief time so that she can pass her exams and complete her bachelors, so yeah we dont sleep together, we plan to live together after 2 months hopefully
lostinspice · 51-55, F
I think that'll help a lot!
My daughter has been married for 1 month now. Wedded Bliss.
Advice: let the small stuff go.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@CereBellum i see... That means just dont dig into things
@LittleCreates Like if she leaves her makeup all over the sink, get used to it. Not worth arguing over. Petty stuff like men leaving toilet seat up. Big deal—Not.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
Got it. Thanks
Poppies · 61-69, F
Don’t expect your wife to make you happy. You have the greatest responsibility for your own happiness, by way of your attitude and your actions. It’s your job to be supportive, respectful, and never roll your eyes at what she says! Don’t think of there being any probationary period in the marriage—you are ONE now! Nothing short of true evil should tear you apart!

And my advice to her is exactly the same as my advice to you.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@Poppies thank you for detailed advice
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
It's a partnership requiring effort and compromise by both to keep it going. But don't look at it as work, and don't let it get boring like work. A little unexpected surprise gift, outing, or event -- the more out of character the better -- every so often helps immensely. And think of the partnership as that of roommates. Roommates are tolerant and thoughtful, knowing it can dissolve at any time. Don't let the marriage partnership begin feeling like ownership of the other person, or being owned.
walabby · M
What others say here... Communication and don't sweat the small stuff...
... Oh, and NEVER forget her birthday and wedding anniversary.. ;)
SW-User
there are a lot of responsibilities
don't forget to have fun
keep "dating"
hunkalove · 61-69, M
Hookers are more fun. And cheaper.
abe182 · 46-50, M
@hunkalove this man gets it
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@hunkalove lolll... I think i agree a bit
1. Don't sweat the small stuff.
2. It's mostly small stuff.
3. If you like things a certain way, don't expect the other person to conform and be willing to take it on yourself rather than getting all miffed at them.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
Prettybrat · 26-30, F
You're asking a bunch of singles, unhappily married folks or people who shit nvm lol
JohnYahYah · 61-69, M
@Prettybrat people who shit what? Don't stop mid sentence...
Prettybrat · 26-30, F
@LittleCreates some advice might lead you astray
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@Prettybrat i am not following advice yet
Wake up every day and come up with one small way to make her day a bit better.

It's hard work.

You get out what you put in.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@dragonfly46 it is hard... But i'll try
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
See everyday as if it was your last.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@MasterofNone i see...
MasterofNone · 26-30, M
@LittleCreates I'm not married FYI
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@MasterofNone thats ok. Thanks btw
goodguy007 · 41-45, M
No matter how many jobs a married man changes, his boss remains the same ;)
malizz · 70-79, M
GO where your love takes you. If you need more tips than this, you have a problem.
lostinspice · 51-55, F
If you don't talk about it, it'll break you apart.
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@lostinspice noted. Thanks
SW-User
too late for the advice part
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@SW-User haha why
My parents have always said, "don't go to bed upset with each other". Sounds like a cliche, but they swear by it.
In June they will celebrate their 62nd wedding anniversary. 😊
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard nice to hear, happy anniversary to them
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Never stop communicating
LittleCreates · 31-35, M
@uncalled4 thanks.

 
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