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Whats your advice regarding marriage

I recently got married, what do you think of marriage and any useful tip lol

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lostinspice · 51-55, F

I've got another one. If you have kids, everything changes. Priorities, feelings, the pecking order, who does which jobs. Be considerate if this happens. It's massively hard finding your way as a new patent without your spouse sulking about things or withdrawing. You have to carve out your own parenting role and take charge from time to time without undermining the other person. It's very difficult.

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LittleCreates · 31-35, M

@lostinspice can you explain it simply, my english is not that good

lostinspice · 51-55, F

If you have a baby usually the wife gives everything she has to the baby. The father feels left out. The wife is exhausted & feels unsupported. It's tough.

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

So you mean, if i want her attention, i need to take care of baby by myself too?

lostinspice · 51-55, F

Yes - but at first she might feel shes the only one that can & you might feel she doubts your ability. But the only way to do it together is to both do it ;) not exactly the same - you can't breastfeed for example - but you could teach the baby to go to sleep for you, or bath it or do nappies etc.

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

Well first i need to do sex then babies will come lol... She is shy a bit from me these days, i dont know how to get her laid. Haa!

lostinspice · 51-55, F

And you're married?!
Mm. Have you tried kissing her? If you're not that intimate you need to charm the pants off her before trying. Treat her really nicely take her out & don't expect her to do all the horrid jobs around the house

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

Well i am trying to nice as possible, i am winning her a bit at a time, i think, but not sure.... She is kind of have v high emotions, that boggle her mind or she has tremendous control of her emotions, i cant figure it out yet...

lostinspice · 51-55, F

Was it an arranged marriage?

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

Yes, it was arranged marriage, and its kinda hard for me to reach her...

lostinspice · 51-55, F

I think you've just got to ask her! Say, we're married. I want us to be like a married couple. I want to romance you and cherish you. You agreed to marry me. Tell me what sort of romancing & cherishing you want so or married adventure can begin.

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

She shy away and change the topic, once i kissed her suddenly, so she kind of stayed away but i see on her face the shyness... She is too shy from me.

lostinspice · 51-55, F

I think she doesn't feel s
anything romantic for you yet, or she is scared of the physical side. But it would better to have that conversation and be honest than not. In time she might grow to love you but communication is really important. Don't underestimate it.

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

Well i try to connect to her, we talk not so much but still i try to talk to her, i try to make her smile, i buy her new things, but she just say love is nothing, when i say i love you to her.... Once she sent to me a heart in the begining, other than that, we argued a bit in b/w, she blocked me on the phone too.... But i try my best and the other thing is i am v horny right now and need sex.

lostinspice · 51-55, F

I don't think this is going well! Did she definitely agree to the match? If it's consummated it's not a marriage yetm

lostinspice · 51-55, F

And see a hooker get a mistress or have a solo session for the horniness

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

Solo session?

lostinspice · 51-55, F

A wank

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

She agreed herself to marriage, no body forced her, even i asked her several times before marriage.... She herself said yes to me.... Once she said after marriage that she is not ready to accept me yet as true hubby in a way, she needs time, but i think time is running, as we married in december, and i only once kissed her on cheeks by catching her in thin air kind of...

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

For horniness a wank is good thing, but i need a human touch to it, sexting can do, but i couldn't get anyone to sexting etc.... Hard times

lostinspice · 51-55, F

I think you need to give her a deadline. And stop sexting people that won't help things will it?! Have you discussed this with your family?

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

Well i didn't discuss properly with family yet... They say she will attach to you, give her time... I dont know what i have to do to win her love.

lostinspice · 51-55, F

That's why you must talk openly to her.

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

I talk to her openly today, she said i was alone in another country for a few years, so i developed this

lostinspice · 51-55, F

What do you mean? What did you develop? Did she say she would try!

LittleCreates · 31-35, M

I mean she said to me, she lived alone for a few years, so she is adapting to the new environment, we went to shopping today, and we bought things together, had a chit chat... So i think it will be okay after sometime

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