@WalterF....You refer to God, if I am not mistaken, as a “thing that KILLS and always has done” am I right? If so, I’d like to address that.
There’s another side to that. It is BECAUSE there is a hell, that Jesus suffered and endured all that He did on the cross...in order that through Him, we could be saved...and our sins which separate us from God the Father, PAID. Jesus did that for everyone’s benefit. Or would we rather the alternative? God is fair...Sin, is not!
David simply says in the Psalms, "and he judges the world with righteousness; he judges the peoples with uprightness" (Psalm 9:8).
Was it “fair” that Jesus had to suffer and die in order to pay for your sins on the cross? Indeed, for us all? Was it fair that He took your place and mine on the cross, when it is He who knew no sin? That should tell you, alone, just how much Jesus loves you. He laid down His very life, to save yours. That certainly doesn’t describe a God who is out to destroy people. He is not willing that ANY should perish.
The fact is, there is a way to escape hell and the sin that brings judgment upon us. God is indeed just, but He is also love, and in His love He took our sins upon Himself at the cross. Christ paid the judgment in full so that we don't have to face hell. Paul writes, "but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Since, therefore, we have now been justified by His blood, much more shall we be saved by Him." (Romans 5:8–9).
On an American troopship, the soldiers crowded around their chaplain, asking, "Do you believe in hell?" "I do not", replied the chaplain. "Well, then, will you please resign, for if there is no hell, we do not need you, and if there is a hell, we do not wish to be led astray."
If there is no hell, then there is no need for a cross or a Savior. But hell is very real, and as Christian author Os Guinness says, "For some, Hell is simply a truth realized too late." It is a sobering fact that those who choose to reject Jesus in this life will have their request honored in the next by a loving God who will indeed acquiesce to their wishes and send them to the choice they themselves have made.