Would you sacrifice your dreams to go live so far away with someone you love? I know this guy,...

TexChik · F

If you have any thoughts other than moving to Japan because you can't live without him, then you already have your answer.

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

Do the living together there thing for a while. Hold off marriage until you are more certain it's what you want.

Have the adventure. Moving to another country was the best decision I ever made.

You can always go home. Just remember that in later life people regret the chances not taken more than the things that didn't quite work out.

GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

Culture Shock is hard. Have a trial period and try out Japan. You may grow to love it. It really depends on the area and your guy's finances. But I will say, as a foreigner there you will always be a "Gaijin." I am sorry, but the reality is that unless you become so famous and established there in Japan to the point where you're a fixture, then you will always be seen and treated as a foreigner by most people there.

That does not necesarily mean you will be treated badly, but you may be treated coldly at times and you may have to prepare for that reality. It's simply to be expected.

They are in no way used to seeing forigners in most places in Japan, especially if by chance your are darker skinned.

Please realize it's not personal, it is cultural and they have high cultural expectation of how to act and integrate there.

VisitJapan by all means! It's a great place to visit, my sister did and it is beautiful. She went with her BF.

But in some areas the men do not know boundaries and it's not safe for a woman alone at night or in the train.

Best bet is not to marry him before you try to move there. And see if you can possibly get a job there teaching English or something, I don't know.

Best of luck and stay safe.

Neoerectus · M

Maybe. Would he be willing to do the same for you?

If it is a one-way thing, then hard "NO!"

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

No he is not worth it. If he was you wouldn't have to ask.

Sapio · 51-55, M

At least one thing is clear from your posts about this guy. You met not too long ago. You gotta make sure that this is love not lust. And I don't think you've known him long enough to make such a heavy, life-changing decision. You need more time. Remember this. If you fall fast. You fall hard.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Is this the Leo guy? How long have you known him?

Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M

Go have an adventure

Ontheroad · M

I'd suggest you NOT get married before moving with him to Japan. If you go, go on your own and have a round-trip ticket paid for before you go.

The guy may be a dreamboat, but he might not be... protect yourself.

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

How long have you been involved with this guy? If this is a long-term relationship and you're sure that he's your human, then considering sacrificing everything else in your life is understandable.

It sounds, though, like you really don't know the guy all that well. And sacrificing everything in your life to take a risk on a relationship that may very well not work out is a regret waiting to happen.

If he really cares about you, he'll find a way to make things work with you even if you stay where you are. If he doesn't, that says a lot.

FreestyleArt · 31-35, M

Well since I don't have a wife or kids. Those are for later as I continue to build myself.

Although I don't want any kids tell you the truth. I don't want my sons or daughter to be manipulated in this trash world we live in. All I need to focus on myself and the system of this world and the future how it will grow.

So I can take advantage of demonic plans of this world later on.

in10RjFox · M

Probably if he deposits $500,000 and makes you a beneficiary.

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

Why would u move.

hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M

The only question that you need to be asking yourself is if the 'dreams' you had for yourself is worth giving up to follow the other dream of having a husband/boyfriend. I know which way I would go but I am not you.