Would you sacrifice your dreams to go live so far away with someone you love?

I know this guy, we met in France he recently told me that he is planning to move to Japan for a long time… he’d like us to get married and live together there.
I don’t speak Japanese and I will be so far away from my parents, friends, everything I know…
I will have to sacrifice my career, my dreams, everything I fought for… for a long time.
I am so confused.. the first thing now popping into my head is: does he worth it?

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GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M

Culture Shock is hard. Have a trial period and try out Japan. You may grow to love it. It really depends on the area and your guy's finances. But I will say, as a foreigner there you will always be a "Gaijin." I am sorry, but the reality is that unless you become so famous and established there in Japan to the point where you're a fixture, then you will always be seen and treated as a foreigner by most people there.

That does not necesarily mean you will be treated badly, but you may be treated coldly at times and you may have to prepare for that reality. It's simply to be expected.

They are in no way used to seeing forigners in most places in Japan, especially if by chance your are darker skinned.

Please realize it's not personal, it is cultural and they have high cultural expectation of how to act and integrate there.

VisitJapan by all means! It's a great place to visit, my sister did and it is beautiful. She went with her BF.

But in some areas the men do not know boundaries and it's not safe for a woman alone at night or in the train.

Best bet is not to marry him before you try to move there. And see if you can possibly get a job there teaching English or something, I don't know.

Best of luck and stay safe.