Caught Red Handed I've officially decided to stop fighting for my marriage. Today, I found...

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

They don’t cheat because there’s necessarily a problem. Some people just cheat because they can’t help themselves. They thrive on attention and they like their ego’s stroked or have sex addictions.

lovelywarpedlemon

😖 sorry this happened, good for you for having the self worth and courage to demand better

SW-User

I haven't learnt how to keep a selfish person happy enough that they don't put their own ego and desires above every body elses welfare

You deserve better

hartfire

Some men don't cheat.
Usually, they are the men that other women don't want. :/

curiosi · 61-69, F

So sorry, I admire that you are doing the right thing. Your children are watching and seeing your strength will help them.

stound

sorry to hear that.
I read somewhere, and I dunno if it's correct or valid...
men cheat because they want their relationship to stay, but they also want something that they aren't getting in the relationship. women cheat because they're done, over and ready for the relationship to end. not sure if that's helpful info, but... I like to relay things I read and remember.

Carissimi · F

I’m so sorry. It’s devastating now, but you and your children will survive it. Hugs.

JustGoneNow ·

I’m sorry. I really don’t know what to say. That’s horrible.

smiler2012 · 56-60

phantomsphynkter you know this is a pity as this sounds like none of this is your fault your husband sounds such a selfish pig and you would do right to say good riddance not easy with kids but you can play that to your advantage as he has no rules to his game you need to start thinking about seriously with the kids you need to look after there welfare and staying in that house

Tres13 · 51-55, M

Dumbass got caught

Doomflower · 36-40, M

I feel bad being a cheater but the taboo is kind of part of it. I love my partner but he isn't sexual.

Oster1 · M

This is truly so devastating and takes so much to come out, on the other side. It hurts me to read this.😌

Frank52 · 70-79, M

You are so young to be so desperately hurt in this way. I can only imagine your pain. 😔

OogieBoogie · F

Good decision - you can't change them, only yourself.

You can't fix a relationship when the other isn't committed to doing the same.

But you can fix your own life.

Go for it 👍😊

Missheidi · 31-35, T

Im so sorry hunny that isnt right at all

SW-User

Totally agree with you.

Montanaman · M

You're spot on...

People say that cheaters cheat because they're not happy in their relationship. I think they cheat because they're not happy in themselves...

But it breaks my heart to know this is happening to you. 😔💔🤗🤗

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

Ouch!

bijouxbroussard · F

[quote] People say that cheaters cheat because they're not happy in their relationship. I think they cheat because their not happy in themselves...

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That’s correct, unfortunately. No one can “fix” them but themselves.
I’m so sorry. 🙁

gurlwatcher22 · 61-69, M

Are you sure it's a woman? It may be a guy friend who he likes playing "dress up" with,lol.

SW-User

Throw him to the curb and find someone who only wants you. X

Oster1 · M

I’m really sorry. I understand.😌

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F

It’s important to model for your children ( as well as necessary for your own good mental health) the standards of treatment they should later give & expect on relationships. I know it’s not something people who feel stuck want to think about but the main relationship that can have a big impact on children is that of their parents. I’m very sorry you two couldn’t work things out. I hope for better days for all of you.