Is being a kept woman really a bad thing?

some couples need both to work to afford everday living. unless there's help from the husband at home it puts stress on the woman. fortunate here that I don't have to work but he always knows he coming home to a clean house and nice hot meal

No it's not bad, but it's dangerous to advise that to young and impressionable girls. Your parents want what is best for you and understand that relying on another person,especially financially, can lead to some unhappy at best ,dangerous to life at worse situations so they encourage you to be independent ,as much as you possibly can.

No, it is absolutely not the same thing as having a sugar daddy, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting financial help from a partner, especially if you're dealing with real limitations like mental health challenges or a reduced capacity to work full-time. A healthy partnership is about mutual support, and financial support can be part of that. It doesn’t make you less independent or less of a feminist. Feminism is about having choices, and if your choice is to be with someone who understands your situation and wants to help, that is valid. Relying on a husband for support does not mean giving up your independence. It just means you are being realistic about what you can handle on your own. Wanting help is not weakness, it is human. And it sounds like you still plan to contribute in whatever way you can, which shows integrity. The key is choosing someone who sees your worth beyond money and who supports you out of love and respect, not control. Your situation is not about laziness or dependency, it is about surviving, healing, and building a life that works for you. Do not let society's expectations shame you for needing help.

the pendulum swing regarding feminism is wide. You should NEVEAR feel that you are not as good a woman because you work or don't work.. If your family needs more than one income to survive, then that has to be worked out. It is a shame that it is more often the need to work for income, then desire.

If the husband doesn’t mind providing why not but if want a Gucci bag and can’t afford it and need your husbands money to buy it that’s bad but if he is willing to buy it or give you the money why not a lot of guys are willing to give but you need to also give in return

It's not bad as long as you both mutually agree that is how your relationship functions. This should be something you hash out early and not drop later on with assumptions.

Alimony is a way to ensure financial support to a woman who would have sacrificed her career to bring up kids keep the home running but couldn't earn .

If that's what you want, no. Forcing that lifestyle on others is bad.

If you are married then you are not a kept woman you are a wife whose husband is living up to his responsibility to provide for you

What does he get in return? It can’t be all one sided.