How to gently say no to a friend who asks you out on a date? so i went shopping with a friend...

RCGPruett · 26-30, M

Could always pull the whole "But you're like a brother to me! That would be weird!"

LadyWioness · 56-60, F

Just be honest. That's best. Gently honest.

JK7452 · 31-35, F

I have a similar story like this. I was in high school and this guy asked me out. I didn't know what to say to him at first and I didn't really feel the same as he felt about me. A few of his friends ended up asking me out for him instead of him because he was probably a little too afraid to come to me. Then, I was pretty confident and rejected him. Even though it may have hurt him, at least I was honest about it and he understood how I felt. I'm sure your friend will understand how you feel. ☺

SW-User

"No" * pats head *

crypticcodes · 31-35, F

don't lead him on whatever you do cause that will only hurt him more. just be honest and say that you really appreciate having him as a friend but don't see him as anything more than a friend. if he is truly a good friend he will understand.

sarabee1995 · 26-30, FVIP

That's going to be hard. After you let him down gently, he's going to be embarrassed. It will be hard to maintain the friendship unless you put a lot of effort into the friendship after you let him down.

Byebyebye123

Yeah, he will be gone.. sorry

SW-User

there's no easy way out of this but hey..he knew the risk,made his move.This one is on him,not on you🤔

Bluesky53 · 61-69, M

well,here goes,,,,the best way,which isn't.you may say,,,,this is how i feel,,,i really don't want to date anyone at this time,the best i can do if there's a group going out,i'll go,but not as a date,,,,

PlumBerries · 31-35, F

just a update, I left earlier since this was bugging me a lot so I went over to his place to talk to him and well it was just really awkward but once we talked for a bit, he was really understanding and was really cool about it... so good to get that over with.. and still hanging out with him tonight, so yeah.. its all ok for now I'm sure... thanks everyone for the advice

Socialclutz · 36-40, M

Don't sugar coat it

EuphoricTurtle · 41-45, M

grab a stick and wave it like a magic wand (in true harry portter style) and speak the magic words
"friendzonus-foreverus"😛

Nos the serious answer. Be honest, it won't be easy, you are going to see him dissapointed and possibly sad. But it's far better for him to internalise that it's never going to happen rather than give him false hope.

MikefromEP · 56-60, M

So say it to him. Obviously he will be hurt.. just as you are by this view

SteelHands · 61-69, M

Too many words. Never lie to someone you call a friend.

CaptainCanadia · 41-45, M

Fuck, sorry. It's a really, really hard position to be in.

All you can do is be honest, and be kind. If the reason is not personal, and it really is that you aren't going to date anyone, then tell him that. It is going to crush him, and there's no way to avoid that. You can just make it hurt the least you can.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Any chance you've got a gf that's a bit of a slut 😀