Friendship between man and woman?
Is it possible that one side don't suffer in the end?
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My husband is my best friend. We met in 1984, and played and consorted for 19 years before tying the knot.
Yes friendship is possible.
I think it's the best basis there is for a successful relationship.
Friendship is an art (a complex set of skills combined with creativity) worth learning.
Yes friendship is possible.
I think it's the best basis there is for a successful relationship.
Friendship is an art (a complex set of skills combined with creativity) worth learning.
Sonjicak · 46-50, F
@clothos: This is beautiful and I agree that the best relationship is when you first of all friend with your partner... but I guess problem start when just one side start to feel something
"problem start when just one side start to feel something"
Yes, I agree. Problems start when people's feelings and needs differ.
Part of the art of a good long term relationship is knowing how to deal with those differences when they arise.
When we love someone, we have no desire to do anything against their wishes. We deeply want them to be happy.
If their desire don't match ours, we can always find a way to meet our own needs.
Try looking at U-Tube clips of Marshall Rosenberg's "Non-Violent Communication."
The technique is very simple; four parts applied in two ways.
The trick is overcoming the years of cultural habits that our society teaches. Our language, legal system, TV etc are all full of blaming and adversarial ways of jumping to conclusions, and boom! the fight is on.
When we are hurt, fearful, ashamed or angry, we forget to listen to one
another.
There are free NVC groups almost everywhere, where one can practise learning the technique with a bunch of like-minded people.
Yes, I agree. Problems start when people's feelings and needs differ.
Part of the art of a good long term relationship is knowing how to deal with those differences when they arise.
When we love someone, we have no desire to do anything against their wishes. We deeply want them to be happy.
If their desire don't match ours, we can always find a way to meet our own needs.
Try looking at U-Tube clips of Marshall Rosenberg's "Non-Violent Communication."
The technique is very simple; four parts applied in two ways.
The trick is overcoming the years of cultural habits that our society teaches. Our language, legal system, TV etc are all full of blaming and adversarial ways of jumping to conclusions, and boom! the fight is on.
When we are hurt, fearful, ashamed or angry, we forget to listen to one
another.
There are free NVC groups almost everywhere, where one can practise learning the technique with a bunch of like-minded people.
So how should we see the truth with our mind or heart when we're face with the end? Believe rather either side wants to admitted or not both sides will suffer. How one deals with that once again goes back to one's character if able to remember the pleasant times with out feeling betrayal. Friendship is endearing quality between two on individuals as if to say I'm always here. But life is messy at times and so we've to part ways will hopefully no ill will towards them.
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Sonjicak · 46-50, F
@Shiro: You are not the only.. That's normal ☺
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mrpeaches · 41-45, M
probably not. you'll eventually fall in love with that person, and they fall in love with you or you're just not going to get along very well.
mrpeaches · 41-45, M
@AliceinWonderland: haha yum. Peaches.
@mrpeaches: get it? because that's your name
mrpeaches · 41-45, M
@AliceinWonderland: I know ;)
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LadyWioness · 56-60, F
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Sonjicak · 46-50, F
@GypsyKing: I just think positive and Cinderella and stuff like that is not something that I was watching
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Sure. But it works better if one or both are gay. Or if the ages are far apart (like a 75 year old woman and a 25 year old man).
Sonjicak · 46-50, F
@greenmountaingal: Somehow I doubt that friendship like that would worked
of course they suffer... well sometimes. it just depends
Goralski · 56-60, M
Screwing always comes up
