Friendship between man and woman?
Is it possible that one side don't suffer in the end?
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My husband is my best friend. We met in 1984, and played and consorted for 19 years before tying the knot.
Yes friendship is possible.
I think it's the best basis there is for a successful relationship.
Friendship is an art (a complex set of skills combined with creativity) worth learning.
Yes friendship is possible.
I think it's the best basis there is for a successful relationship.
Friendship is an art (a complex set of skills combined with creativity) worth learning.
Sonjicak · 46-50, F
@clothos: This is beautiful and I agree that the best relationship is when you first of all friend with your partner... but I guess problem start when just one side start to feel something
"problem start when just one side start to feel something"
Yes, I agree. Problems start when people's feelings and needs differ.
Part of the art of a good long term relationship is knowing how to deal with those differences when they arise.
When we love someone, we have no desire to do anything against their wishes. We deeply want them to be happy.
If their desire don't match ours, we can always find a way to meet our own needs.
Try looking at U-Tube clips of Marshall Rosenberg's "Non-Violent Communication."
The technique is very simple; four parts applied in two ways.
The trick is overcoming the years of cultural habits that our society teaches. Our language, legal system, TV etc are all full of blaming and adversarial ways of jumping to conclusions, and boom! the fight is on.
When we are hurt, fearful, ashamed or angry, we forget to listen to one
another.
There are free NVC groups almost everywhere, where one can practise learning the technique with a bunch of like-minded people.
Yes, I agree. Problems start when people's feelings and needs differ.
Part of the art of a good long term relationship is knowing how to deal with those differences when they arise.
When we love someone, we have no desire to do anything against their wishes. We deeply want them to be happy.
If their desire don't match ours, we can always find a way to meet our own needs.
Try looking at U-Tube clips of Marshall Rosenberg's "Non-Violent Communication."
The technique is very simple; four parts applied in two ways.
The trick is overcoming the years of cultural habits that our society teaches. Our language, legal system, TV etc are all full of blaming and adversarial ways of jumping to conclusions, and boom! the fight is on.
When we are hurt, fearful, ashamed or angry, we forget to listen to one
another.
There are free NVC groups almost everywhere, where one can practise learning the technique with a bunch of like-minded people.