He said

"Ramadan is tomorrow, I'm sorry for everything I did that hurt you, I hope you forgive me for everything before Ramadan , thank you"

If i already forgive him should i let him know or would it be bad if ignore him?

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peternoc · 70-79, M

Whether you are Christian or Muslim, you should always forgive those who ask your forgiveness. (Otherwise, how do you expect your mistakes to be forgiven?) But that doesn't mean you take him back. If your brain is telling you that it just isn't going to work out, you should be honest with him. Don't ignore him. Tell him simply that you forgive him and that you won't be seeing him again. So he knows how you feel and can start looking elsewhere.

caramelonjamzhenping · 22-25, F

Take note, this piece of advice is coming from a 16-year old kid.

You've already taken the first step: forgiving him. I think you should let him know, just to make it clear between you and him.

But it doesn't mean that you guys must get back together. If you feel that this relationship doesn't work out, I think that you guys should just remain friends. Did you tell him that you wanted to remain friends?

Walkingparadox · 31-35, F

@caramelonjamzhenping: i dont wanna be friends. He's the one who wanna be friends and asked me to message him from time to time so he'd know I'm doing well

caramelonjamzhenping · 22-25, F

@Rosaline: Then, what do you want to be with him?

If I was put into your shoes, I would think that he doesn't want any awkward tension between the two of you.

ChickenInvasion · 31-35, M

Tell him u forgive him sure... u don't have to let it go back to normal, but if uve let it go at least let him know that

Walkingparadox · 31-35, F

@ChickenInvasion: he been trying to message me since a week ago and it's been a week i didn't talk to him. We already broke up but he wish to be friends still as i dont believe we can be friends.

ChickenInvasion · 31-35, M

Tell him u aren't angry and you forgave him, but u dont want to be around him or talk.

Be honest about where u r, and if he doesn't accept it. Go back to ignorinf him.

Walkingparadox · 31-35, F

@ChickenInvasion: i just can't talk anymore..

SW-User

Well depends on whether you want to be emotionally manipulated

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SW-User

Yes -because a genuine apology is about the person you're apologising to. This is about him and using an emotional prop (I hope you forgive me before ...) to control your actions - in this case to manipulate you into making contact with him and assuring him you have 'forgiven him'

Walkingparadox · 31-35, F

Yes that's sounds like that because i been ignoring him for a week when we used to chat via messaging app like every day every night. And we broke up because he said he didn't have want me to put hope on him, his parents wouldn't accept bla bla bla and wanted to still be friends and i tried for some week, i just couldn't. All we did was just figh.

SW-User

Let it go honey xxx

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