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Should I tell my ex bf I'm pregnant with his child if I plan to terminate my pregnancy?

I just found out I was pregnant yesterday
There's nothing he can do to convince me otherwise I am terminating it I cannot have a baby now.

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JaneDoe23 · F Best Comment

I don't think telling him is a good idea. He may end up giving you a hard time and going through that procedure is enough to deal with as it is.

And I'd just like to say that I support your decision 100%. You know what is best for you, fuck what anyone else says. Its your life and your body.

JaneDoe23 · F

Thanks!

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

@Justagrrrl23: Sure!

LadyGrace · 70-79

I'm not judging you as a person, but any way you put it, it's murder according to God's standards. I'm sorry to say this, but it's true. Killing is not the answer. You say it's not a baby yet, but it is still life inside you, growing from the moment of conception, wanting to be born. If you don't want it, I'm sure some other lady who would love nothing more than to conceive, but can't, would love to have it. This baby deserves a chance.

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LadyGrace · 70-79

@heatherpommelman: The baby already IS yours.

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

@GraceFromEP: Okay that's not my problem. I didn't ask for this to happen. The fetus inside me doesn't feel pain and doesn't have a fully developed nervous system. It couldn't have lived without me. I'm fine terminating it. If you're not go think about your bible or something.

LadyGrace · 70-79

@heatherpommelman: Ultimately, yes, that is your choice.

LadyGrace · 70-79

Love you, honey. I wish you the best. Sorry if I sounded pushy. I just want the best for you.

SW-User

I wouldn't tell him if you're sure that's what you're going to do.

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

if you are asking advice, you are obv concerned about the consequences of your choices. This choice is yours to make but either way you are at the mercy of potential regret whether you tell him or not. Personally if it were me, I wouldn't mention it. This very thing happened to friend of mine and he said it stung a lot to hear what she did.

greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

Under the circumstances....no. It would serve no purpose.

Please reconsider. This would be something you would be thinking about a long time from now, affecting your whole life.

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

I'm sorry I can't have a child right now
I work 80 hour weeks and I have very few days off

SW-User

@heatherpommelman: then let someone to adopt the child.

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

@DragonBorn: hahaha funny

Callmewhatyouwill

No, if you're aborting why tell him?

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

No, it's your body

TheRascallyOne · 31-35, M

You're a horrible person

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LadyGrace · 70-79

Not yet. It could be. It is still alive, you should know that much since you went to medical school. Would you like someone to make the choice for you, whether you get to live or die? This baby has a right to live. Why should it suffer because you made the decision to take a risk? Whether you used birth control or not, thats irrelevant to the life of this baby. He/she could care less. Just wants to live. @heatherpommelman:

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

@GraceFromEP: It doesn't want anything because it's nervous system hasn't developed yet...

LadyGrace · 70-79

@heatherpommelman: Don't try and justify what your conscience condemns. You know better. That's an excuse. You're not a bad person, but your choice here is a lousy one. Not fair to this early life inside you.

SW-User

what if your child will be someone like einstein who contributes something to the society to make human lives better? so don't kill a child.

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heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

@AoNoSora: Idk about her situation. All I know is that I live in a studio apartment with a roommate and I have no free time or money for daycare

SW-User

check this link
http://www.masscitizensforlife.org/get-informed/pregnancy-womens-health-partner/

AoNoSora

@heatherpommelman: so you're thinking about telling your ex in case he wants to raise him?

Bean17 · 51-55, F

Considering it sounds like you are 100% sure, I don't see the point in mentioning it to him. Hugs

mysteryangel · 51-55, F

If you're definitely going to terminate why bother telling him? What can you possibly gain from that?

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

He is an ex. Why would you even consider telling something that personal?

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GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

@Pinkrainbowkisses: but she has determined he has no say in the matter.

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

@GJOFJ3: I'm a physician my friend will do it for free. I'm just wondering if he should know.

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

@heatherpommelman: you want him to feel guilt, or hope he is upset that you are aborting his baby? Then by all means tell him.

JohnOinger · 41-45, M

dont abort it Give it up for Adoption

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

Not interested in destroying my body haha

Ryanoliver2011 · 31-35, M

@heatherpommelman: EXACTLY!!! I know too many people who's bodies have been completely trashed either physically or mentally as a result of pregnancy but as far as all of these pro life nuts are concerned how YOU end up doesn't matter as long as you don't get rid of a FETUS. Smdh

UserNameSW · 46-50, M

Is there anything to be gained by telling him. If not, don't do it.

juiceyangel333 · 31-35, F

You'll cry about this one day

heatherpommelman · 31-35, F

Trust me I won't

Tminus6453 · M

No... no need to tell him

TwiddlerofThumbs · F

nope

mrmoose · 70-79, M

starburst83m · 41-45

No need to. Your body is yours.

SW-User

i dont know

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