Letting go of the past… when the past won’t let go of you

Posted a new photo on social media. Feeling good and ready to start over. And then the next morning I get this email from an ex. Why do men fight harder to try to win you back after the relationship is over? Not when you are actually still in it. When you yourself still care and want to fix things. No, they think that it’s smart to try after your love is already fading away and when you accept there’s no changing his poor behaviours. After you realize that you deserve better and that you are actually happier with out them. Some advice for men. If you really do love her and don’t want to lose her. Put in the effort while she still cares to build a life with you, because once she stops caring.. there’s no fixing it.

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Allelse · 36-40, M

We're creatures of time, our past our foundations. Even if you come to terms with it, you'll still find yourself waking up crying some mornings. Maybe we have to come to terms with that too, and be alright with that.

One good thing to remember when you go out into the wild, is that you will fall over and you will get hurt. You can come to terms with that, but the scars still hurt, years after they've healed. I've got one on my left index finger from when an oyster split the skin, and just the other day, 5 years later, the skin pulled the wrong way and it didn't ache. It hurt. Only the pain wasn't like it was the day it happened, it was just different.

And people? People are the worst.