@zonavar68 Actually, we all DO have it automatically by default.
You cannot teach people 'how' to be social, anymore than you can teach a person common sense.
We were all born with social skills implanted within our DNA because we are human, the difference between each one of us being the level of extroverted or introverted social skill management we are prepared to maintain for ourselves.
If you are antisocial, it is because you are CHOOSING to be antisocial.
@swirlie Ok, but I'm not 'choosing' by choice because it feels completely normal and correct for me to not want to be social. Therefore not wanting to be dating, pursue sex and relationships, etc.but I wasn't always like that. I was always a loner not wanting friends or girlfriends or more but in my 20's and to some degree my 30's I was very social because I was deep into the rave scene and used to go partying by myself heaps. Still didn't do the friends thing and still don't now in my 50's.
@WowwGirl It's not a matter of 'healtyness'. It has *always* felt normal for me to be non-social and feel more comfortable by myself though I'm totally comfortable in the company of my 7 y/o daughter. Still I don't have any friends with kids of similar age so we don't really meet up with others.
I'm a generation age-wise above all the parents of her school classmates, and sometimes I do try to arrange social things for her and invite her school buddies, but because I'm a dad not a mum the social circle of class parents generally excludes the dads as mum's are socially-wired and dad's for the most part are not.
I would love to meet an awesome woman with a primary school age child but none of them would be in my age range and/or have the sort of work/life/parenting/balance I do. It's a fact I just have to live with since it alienates people from being interested in me with any romantic prospects. Unless a single woman with kids in her 40's sees value in my as a man in my 50's that's a realm that cannot exist for me.
Also any single women my age are the same as me - burnt and charred from previous relationship disasters and extremely fussy who they will consider as a romantic partner given most older women tend to be extremely selfish and narcissistic and expect everything to be all about them (almost to the total exclusion of reciprocated respect and consideration for a man or another woman she might choose to date).
