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Can a woman still be a prize if she is promiscuous ? 馃 馃弳

Or ran through.
See it's hard to say you are [b] selective [/b] when you have boyfriend or a new guy every year. Or when you are always caught up in the moment. Or when you sleep around in secret.
Men can tell if a woman has hit her [b]wall.[/b]
Men can sometimes tell if a woman is [b]fast[/b], or if she is [b]slow.[/b] 馃悽
Do you believe that a woman can still be considered a [b] prize 馃弳 [/b], or [b]high [/b] value wife material kind, if she is [b] promiscuous.[/b]. There are some who believe so. Best answer wins. 鈽猴笍

REMsleep41-45, F Best Comment
Well different people have different ideas about value and morality. There are even some women that are sex workers but have husbands that love and cherish them. It might be on the rare side but it happens.
There are also men that like to have a wife that is hot stuff.
Also any person can change so it also depends on who she is right now. What if a woman was very promiscuous in her early 20s but decided to settle down by 30 and really foster qualities that make a good wife?
Is she non marriagable even though she has all of the qualities that make a great wife? I don't think so.
The real issue is judgements from men and women about sexual promiscuity and how it devalues a woman in the eyes of society. I'm not saying at all that its wrong to value chastity.
But yes, a women who was promiscuous can still be a prize.
Zonuss41-45, M
@REMsleep Thank you for this [b] insightful [/b] and very [b]mature[/b] response. 馃檪
REMsleep41-45, F
@Zonuss Thanks for BA!

Scribbles31-35, F
Your post sounds like a pretty shit way to judge value of a human being. 馃し鈥嶁檧锔
Zonuss41-45, M
@Scribbles You are so slow. Apparently everyone else on this post is light-years ahead of you. 馃き
Zonuss41-45, M
@Scribbles No. Because you're just here to get attention like the rest of these loser trolls. It's not my fault that you are [b]slow.[/b] You are really [b]slow. [/b] Ok Felicia. 馃檪
black4white56-60, M
@Zonuss not being a prude at any level.... being very much so the opposite..

If you want the highest respect what does respect have to do with who they sleep with...IF a person judges on about the # of people then it appears THAT individual is the one that is in need of respect.

Who she sleeps with has no bearing on how respectful she is THAT is my point

IF a man sleeps with 50 women is he consider prize?
Zonuss41-45, M
@black4white You tell me [b] Einstein.[/b] 馃檪
black4white56-60, M
This is a question where you literally have to see if a man worth more than the womans....Each woman is a gift and it all depends on the person they are with and how they are valued in their relationship.

Most people cant tell if one is fast or slow.... this is the issue where women are sluts/whores and men are not when they have slept with the same # of people.

I get your point but the question is horrific... LOL!!! its not the 1950's
black4white56-60, M
@Zonuss EXACTLY... now you are coming around

so your views or his views or any other views of promiscuous truly dont matter to that woman whom is a prize...

What is your idea of traditional...maybe that is the issue... sounds like traditional to you is caveman but i will let you answer this LOL

What the diff between promiscuous and modest? to some more than 1 is promiscuous so careful how you trad these waters.
Zonuss41-45, M
@black4white You sound like you are on drugs. 馃槀
black4white56-60, M
@Zonuss i can only wish...馃ぃ

BTW...Queen made some really good music and i dont care about his sex life... his music was AWESOME!!!! the rest is NOT my business.... ya feel me
Crazywaterspring61-69, M
Women are NOT commodities. They're people. And they are quite equal to men.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Crazywaterspring There is nothing here that indicates women are [b] commodities. [/b]. 馃檪
Adogslife61-69, M
I certainly hope she鈥檚 been promiscuous. It鈥檒l make her a more open, desiring partner for me.

Speaking from experience, my first wife was very, very attractive and a prude to the extent she鈥檇 have been clinically called 鈥渇rigid鈥. There鈥檚 little worse in a relationship.

I鈥檒l take an adventurous, participatory woman all day long. Good for her for getting what she wants.
Zonuss41-45, M
@KiwiBird 馃檪
Crazywaterspring61-69, M
@KiwiBird I taught my daughters that long ago.
Fungirlmmm51-55
What kind of wall are we hitting? Like O run into walls at night a lot amf bruise myself. Does that count?
Newfound1M
@Fungirlmmm No, I think it has to do with the condition of her front or rear bumpers.
Fungirlmmm51-55
@Newfound1 oh ok. My bumpers are both pretty tight and clean. Hasnt been too many rear ending me.
Newfound1M
@Fungirlmmm but have you backed into anything?
Any man who sees a woman like a used car, that is a you problem.
Zonuss41-45, M
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Nobody said anything here about seeing women as used cars. 馃槀
@Zonuss The comparison is appropriate since this entire discussion treats a woman's sexuality like mileage on a car.
Zonuss41-45, M
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow No. Your head is on backwards. That's all.馃檪
OntheroadM
Huh? What does one have to do with the other?
Zonuss41-45, M
@Ontheroad You're a smart guy. You tell me. 鈽猴笍
OntheroadM
@Zonuss yeah, no. I'm sure with a bit of thinking you'll figure it out.
Newfound1M
What's the limit? If she's been with, for example, 3 guys in her life, is she no longer worthy of your attention?
Newfound1M
@Zonuss if she had 15 lovers in 10 years, you'd be good asking her out?
Zonuss41-45, M
@Newfound1 Maybe. But this isn't about me sir. It's just a post. Like chill out ok. 馃檪
Newfound1M
@Zonuss I'm chill, just for discussion purposes.
CookieCrumbsF
With your mention of promiscuous, are you referring to her past sexual history?

Or her current behavior while in a sort of entanglement with you(or any man, for that matter)?
Zonuss41-45, M
@CookieCrumbs Current behavior. Keep in mind that many people have outside relationships while they are [b]engaged[/b] and while they are [b] married.[/b] Just saying. But dammit it's just a question 馃槀

It has nothing to do with how I feel. 馃
CookieCrumbsF
@Zonuss
So how do you feel about this situation you presented?

Got it. Not past, but current behavior.
What would you do if you happen to fall in love with a married woman (or she with you)? Would that be promiscuous?

Again just a question for discussion purposes 馃槀
Zonuss41-45, M
@CookieCrumbs What I feel or think doesn't matter.
It's just a post. You either like it or you don't. 馃檪馃挜
Prize? We鈥檙e not things.
I hope most men don鈥檛 think about women like that.
@Zonuss I don鈥檛 get your point since you were asking women being a prize, not men. Anyway鈥
Zonuss41-45, M
@BloviatingBuffoon The word prize means high value. There's nothing difficult to understand about that. 馃槀
Zonuss41-45, M
@BloviatingBuffoon Men are men. But we are not talking about them..
revenantF
Guys talk about the 10000 c.o.c stare..I am still trying to find out what it is !-
revenantF
@Paladin well now you are making stuff up, your problem, own it
Paladin56-60, M
@revenant lol..no
You use a term that no one seems to know. I'm not sure how you equate that to me making things up.
jackjjackson61-69, M
I鈥檝e seen it and then ran @revenant
JustNik46-50, F
I believe any woman - or man, for that matter - can be a prize. Society鈥檚 judgment means nothing really, it鈥檚 just a construct, and anyone looking at you through that lens is simply not someone whose soul can see you.
Heavenlywarrior31-35, M
Yeah鈥 a prize to fuck and have a good time鈥. She won鈥檛 be anything virtuous or honorable.

Only a simp or beta male won鈥檛 mind his woman getting fucked and nutted on by another man.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Carla Married and unmarried.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Carla I think you know what the word [b] promiscuous [/b] means.
Carla61-69, F
@Zonuss married or attached people have no business playing around. Unmarried or unattached people? It is none of my business what people do, unless said people make it my business. And still...i make no judgement.
jackjjackson61-69, M
I agree with Revenant. A woman possessing the 1 K cock stare is to be avoided for all but being added to her list if you consider her hot. Other than that there are zero reasons not to avoid her.
jackjjackson61-69, M
Personally I think it鈥檚 simply yet an opportunity for a guy to fantasize about a hot woman as if this hypothetical he needs an excuse. @Scribbles
Scribbles31-35, F
@jackjjackson ok. You may be right.

I personally think the phrase ...is a load of crap as a metaphor or as bad hyperbole...and really doesn't make sense

It's likely the "thousand cock stare" phrasing is supposed to be a kind of reference to the "thousand yard stare".
But I think the idea itself isn't really about a specific stare or a look in the girl's eyes. In a scientific test, I think there is no way to judge the number of "cocks ridden" and the resulting "trauma" by looking in a girl's eyes...

After all, "riding cock" is likely not pathologically toxic to a person's mental state or so horribly traumatic as a consensual activity and is unlikely to induce some sort of semi permanent facial expression from dissociation and depression.

If a quantity of cock could Induce the same symptoms of PTSD and deep depression as war veterans wishing for their.life to end, then the CDC would immediately put out a health warning about cock. And a health warning about relationships with men.

More likely "Thousand cock stare" is just an umbrella term for perceiving a lack of
being impressed, interested, sincerity, eagerness, etc and then retroactively assuming that the woman who looks like she's been through shit and seen everything and been there, done that must be that way because she's fucked 1000 men. And only has short term relationships and is a hot mess and utterly joyless.

In truth, from a psychological perspective, Any dissociation or disinterest, or insincerity and eagerness could be due all kinds of reasons. But probably.mostly the quality of experiences and their mental state and how they cope with it. You can be traumatized by, bored by, put off by one person or many people or a hundred people, I suppose. So perhaps it could easily be called a one cock stare or a five cock stare.

Calling it a thousand cock stare may be more of a slutshaming tactic by someone who wants to fantasize about someone being young and innocent, inexperienced, bubbly, and easily impressed by very little or by them, etc. Rather then trying to pull someone who has more experience and won't put up with bullshit.
Which is what it sounds like to me. Idk.

I know people who have sad eyes, people who dissociate, people who have an odd stare. People who don't care and are jaded about men and romance and.relationships.and have a ridiculous amount of one night stands and feel unsatisfied at the idea of a long relationship. None of them have to do with amount of fucking or the amount of relationships they have had.

I also know people.living their best lives having fucked hundreds of people and still going and they have joy in their lives, they feel fulfilled. They have shown to be capable of long term relationships and feelings, they just aren't interested in anything other then an open relationship.

Men could easily have such a stare as well. I knew someone who had some bad experiences with women and was unfortunately prone to staring at women he liked because he'd get mentally stuck and lost in a depressive thought in a way. No one says that is a stare of a thousand pussies. Or do they? Hmm...

Though I think some.men do get jaded over time, espeically if they have multiple bad experiences. But that doesn't make them soul less, depressed, unable to have feelings, and unfulfilled.

Perhaps it's assumed that within the quantity of a thousand is some sort of percentage of bad experiences vs good experiences and that bad would always win out somehow? Or a subtle nod of
ego (you should fuck me, but not anyone else? Because everyone else is probably bad for you?)
jackjjackson61-69, M
That is one brilliant analysis of what was probably some sexist bullshit. You are a smart woman. I like your style. @Scribbles
Can this question also be asked of the value of a man with the same behavior?
Zonuss41-45, M
@Pinkstarburst We are talking about women only here today.
We already know most men are dogs.
Thank you. 馃檪
I don't judge. Lets be real. If we were talking about a guy you would be giving them a medal for being a stud.
I also don't look at a partner like a possession.
Paladin56-60, M
@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Agreed. They are part of a team.
NorthwestM
It's almost as if you're saying that women are objects one would possess. On second thought, that's what you're saying.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Northwest Yeah I know. You're just the small dog barking at the big dog. You worthless piece of trash. 馃檪
NorthwestM
@Zonuss What a fucking idiot, You've always been a sexist piece of shit, and you keep on confirming it.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Northwest Yes. You've always been a brainless fruitcake. And you have definitely proven that here today. 馃槀
Notanymore36-40, M
I don't think the numbers game actually means much in the value of a mate. If you asked yourself how you'd feel if you never knew, would you still wonder?
Zonuss41-45, M
@Notanymore Ok..Thank you.
Carla61-69, F
An intellegent man should consider himself a prize if such a woman chose him.
Too, a man should find himself fortunate to have an experienced lover...
Ferric67M
It's all relative what your life goal is.
Your partner needs to share your fundamentals in order to coexist in a successful relationship.
Quetzalcoatlus46-50, M
Most men value exclusive access to the womb and beauty first. I think it depends on the man..
Zonuss41-45, M
@Quetzalcoatlus It depends on the man. Fair answer there.
Thank you. 鈽猴笍
Newfound1M
Practice makes perfect. She could be the biggest prize you've ever had.
Zonuss41-45, M
@Newfound1 True. But at what point do you draw the line. 馃檪
Newfound1M
@Zonuss 馃し鈥嶁檪锔
BohemianBoo18-21, M
No woman is a prize. They are all common property to own.
Zonuss41-45, M
@BohemianBoo Explain.馃
BohemianBoo18-21, M
@Zonuss I ain't wanna!
BohemianBoo18-21, M
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exexec61-69, C
She can be a treasure.
Zonuss41-45, M
@exexec In what way sir.
Explain this to me please. 馃檪
exexec61-69, C
@Zonuss Just because a person is promiscuous for a time, it doesn't mean that they cannot change. I have a friend who is a great example. She was a total slut in her teens and early 20's, but she became a model wife and mother.
okaybut56-60, M
Yea...it is not the middle ages...
GaiiaF
Promiscuous, I'd think of they're prone to cheating because of their promiscuous sex life style that would be bad regardless if they're man or women. Like I wouldn't trust them for being a partner.
I know you asked about men but I'm generally speaking
LeopoldBloomM
What if a man is promiscuous? Wouldn鈥檛 the same question apply to him?
Zonuss41-45, M
@LeopoldBloom Would it. 馃檪
LeopoldBloomM
@Zonuss It shouldn't matter. My wife and I both had multiple partners before we met each other, so neither of us is wondering if we're missing out by not sleeping with anyone else. A person's value as a life partner is enhanced by their having some prior experience.
JimboSaturn51-55, M
I don't even see how they are related.
JimboSaturn51-55, M
@Zonuss I guess I mean that being promiscuous has nothing to do with someone's worth in my opinion.
Zonuss41-45, M
@JimboSaturn Hmmmmm. Well you're different than most people sir. 馃檪
JimboSaturn51-55, M
@Zonuss Hopefully not that much in this day and age.
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