what do you think about someone you're dating asking questions about your weight
is this ok with you? or an instant turnoff?
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I haven't dated for decades and back then I was thinner than average for my age, slightly underweight. That was a turnoff for most men, so I had fewer chances of dating than most. None of them ever asked about my weight.
So I have to answer this as a hypothetical - what would I think if a man I was dating asked about my weight.
I'd just answer honestly:
"I began packing it on after menopause, even though I was still eating the same diet as always (home cooked whole foods, mostly vegetarian).
I'm now 5 kilos over the ideal healthy weight for my height, and 10 kilos over my ideal of how I was when young. And I hate it.
I also have a bad cholesterol level of 7 and need to get it down to max 4.5.
I've recently cut out all saturated fats bar the equivalent of two dice per day, and most starch with the exception of a 1/4 cup of rolled oats per day. I've also increased my raw foods in the form of salads.
And I'm practising Dr Michael Moseley 5:2 Diet.
I walk for an hour a day, do at least an hour's weeding most days, go swimming once a week, and do half an hour's beginner's yoga everyday.
It's working. I'm losing a kilo per week."
And I'd hope to hell that he wasn't bored to tears with my answer.
Then I'd ask him about his weight and health.
I make a point of never making assumptions about why someone is under, over or in the healthy weight range. Genetics, conditions like arthritis, disability, hormonal abnormalities, addictions, or mood disorders, or even occupational hazards such as being a writer or office worker can have a major effect on weight. Our society usually blames lifestyle factors, but when we don't know someone, making assumptions is unfair and can be cruel.
Further, a person can be permanently overweight and yet still be healthy and fit; they were just born with a different metabolism.
I think the most important thing is knowing the facts, being realistic and honest, and taking whatever steps one needs to for good self care. The rest - (such as finding someone who accepts one and is capable of love) - will take care of itself because, when one takes care of oneself the way an ideal loving mother would, one becomes attractive and lovable.
Another question is what body type is your date attracted to?
What type are you attracted to?
Might love and positive experiences change that?
So I have to answer this as a hypothetical - what would I think if a man I was dating asked about my weight.
I'd just answer honestly:
"I began packing it on after menopause, even though I was still eating the same diet as always (home cooked whole foods, mostly vegetarian).
I'm now 5 kilos over the ideal healthy weight for my height, and 10 kilos over my ideal of how I was when young. And I hate it.
I also have a bad cholesterol level of 7 and need to get it down to max 4.5.
I've recently cut out all saturated fats bar the equivalent of two dice per day, and most starch with the exception of a 1/4 cup of rolled oats per day. I've also increased my raw foods in the form of salads.
And I'm practising Dr Michael Moseley 5:2 Diet.
I walk for an hour a day, do at least an hour's weeding most days, go swimming once a week, and do half an hour's beginner's yoga everyday.
It's working. I'm losing a kilo per week."
And I'd hope to hell that he wasn't bored to tears with my answer.
Then I'd ask him about his weight and health.
I make a point of never making assumptions about why someone is under, over or in the healthy weight range. Genetics, conditions like arthritis, disability, hormonal abnormalities, addictions, or mood disorders, or even occupational hazards such as being a writer or office worker can have a major effect on weight. Our society usually blames lifestyle factors, but when we don't know someone, making assumptions is unfair and can be cruel.
Further, a person can be permanently overweight and yet still be healthy and fit; they were just born with a different metabolism.
I think the most important thing is knowing the facts, being realistic and honest, and taking whatever steps one needs to for good self care. The rest - (such as finding someone who accepts one and is capable of love) - will take care of itself because, when one takes care of oneself the way an ideal loving mother would, one becomes attractive and lovable.
Another question is what body type is your date attracted to?
What type are you attracted to?
Might love and positive experiences change that?
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Well if its in person they can see for themselves
Some online might ask or say something about weight..has happened before to me that one or maybe two have asked that q and other qs
Some qs are way too personal and so I do not really answer them. But weight I dunno, people can be thin, big or in the middle..and for some they have no problem with someone's weight but others might judge someone. People can gain weight or they could exercise and start eating healthy. Maybe if I trust person I might say personal things
I have never asked someone that question before.
Some online might ask or say something about weight..has happened before to me that one or maybe two have asked that q and other qs
Some qs are way too personal and so I do not really answer them. But weight I dunno, people can be thin, big or in the middle..and for some they have no problem with someone's weight but others might judge someone. People can gain weight or they could exercise and start eating healthy. Maybe if I trust person I might say personal things
I have never asked someone that question before.
blindbob · 41-45
@PrincessRoarBuddy I was going to ask him his dick size in return just to see if he was ok with personal questions.
blindbob · 41-45
@SW-User He doesn't seem to care so much about fucking. :/
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
SusanInFlorida · 31-35, F
Magnolia21 · 22-25, F
I can understand it. Weight, short of extreme circumstances, is controllable. If you're just talking online, you'd better let the other person know, because they will notice in person.
I will ask their weight too.