Ladies: Do you trust a man with "female friends"?

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While my algorithm on instagram is currently clogged with dating tips, something came up about how men shouldn't trust women with "guy friends" and I wonder if women had the same rule with guys who have "female friends". Is she just a friend, or is she someone in the friendzone waiting for her shot?

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Ducky · 31-35, F

Depends on their dynamics. If this man truly is just friends with all his lady friends, that might make me trust him pretty easily. But if this guy's flirtatious with them and his relationship with these women is more like him having a harem, then definitely not.

Fishy · 36-40, F

I think it depends on the type of friendship they have,

If they seem all touchy-feely, or boarderline flirting, then yeah... That would be weird

If they're more like casual "wud up, fam?" Vibes,
Then yeah I'm cool with that

Lucyy · 22-25, F

If I am in a relationship, I expect him to let me be friends with whoever tf I want, and I will do the same. Will I listen to his input and respect it? Yes. And if he tells me that someone makes him uncomfortable, I am fairly likely to begin cutting that person off. But that will NOT be a common thing. If he has an issue with one or two people, that's one thing. If he has an issue with EVERY male friend I have, then it is clear that it is ME he doesn't trust, and I don't fw that. If you trust your partner, them being friends with the opposite gender shouldn't be an issue. So if they can't allow me to have my friends, I don't need to be with them, because a relationship not rooted in trust isn't something I am interested in.

Elessar · 26-30, M

I wouldn't trust a woman who wouldn't trust me for having female friends

sarabi · F

@Elessar why tho? She could be
a) insecure
b) saw you doing something that in her book is no-no
c) doesn't know you long enough
d) you haven't earned her trust
e) has a disorder etcetera.

What of these is making you not trust her?

Elessar · 26-30, M

@sarabi

b) is legit, but in my assumption this isn't the case

c, d, e) are temporary. And rightfully, during that time trust is being built so technically I wouldn't trust her (yet)

a, e) ...yeah, that's when I'll pass

SW-User

yes, in fact i think everyone should consider having friends of all sexes, since sex isn't the object of platonic friendship. restricting the friendship pool isn't going to increase anyone's chances of being in a happily monogamous relationship. two are happy together, or not, despite other people

Piper · 61-69, F

I definitely wouldn't distrust a man for having female friends. If I felt uneasy about any opposite sex friendship he had, it would be because of vibes I got from one or both of them.

SW-User

It's fine line. Maybe a couple casual friendships, but more than that seems like a harem for ego boost.

she someone in the friendzone waiting for her shot?

Sums up most "Just friends" to me.

sarabi · F

I trust a man if he earned my trust. If I see/feel/smell stuff, then that trust is crumbling.

meggie · F

My partner was friends with them (as was his late wife) for years, so I'm happy with it.

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