Why can't I let people in?

I love connecting with people but as soon as I feel it might be something more I freak out. And I shut them out. It's like I just can't let anyone into my life. I wish I could but even the thought of it terrifies me. I love being alone but I wonder what it would be like if I finally let someone in...

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beautyisnature · 31-35, F

It's true. And you know, I find there's always learning that comes out of a failed relationship or any experience that comes from life. I try to find the learning in everything. I'm a deep thinker all the time. Perhaps why I'd rather be alone lol

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SW-User

Honestly..without sounding like a total ass,if you would do it in your current state of mind,your insecurity towards it would probably ruin it for you

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SW-User

@beautyisnature: well said:) just be open and people will show up,just always respect yourself enough to handle the disappointments

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

Thanks :) I strongly agree. It's good to care about yourself and understand what you deserve before letting anyone into your life. 2016 has been a tough year and it was tough because I learned so much and faced so many things I needed to face. I'm sure it will all come in time. I'm an optimist

SW-User

@beautyisnature: rushing these things never seem to work out anyway 😊

UreBesFrend · M

Some people are forever hermits. It's OK really, not a big deal.

The two big negative aspects are, you have nobody to share special moments with, and you have to finance everything yourself, it is so much easier with a partner to assume half of that.

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

That is a very good point! So far I am a forever hermit haha :D only time will tell now

thinkincubes · 41-45

choose wisely, but it's definitely worth it

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

That's the hard part! How does one know

thinkincubes · 41-45

Only you can answer that question I'm afraid... in these matters I trust my gut instinct with my life, but maybe yours is less reliable? If so, advice from people you value can help.

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

My intuition is my guide :) I shall continue to listen to the most important voice then.. thank you for your input!

MsAnnThropy

I like being alone too. :)

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

It's so peaceful this way. I generally love being alone with my thoughts.. most of the time ;)

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