Why can't I let people in?

I love connecting with people but as soon as I feel it might be something more I freak out. And I shut them out. It's like I just can't let anyone into my life. I wish I could but even the thought of it terrifies me. I love being alone but I wonder what it would be like if I finally let someone in...

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SW-User

Honestly..without sounding like a total ass,if you would do it in your current state of mind,your insecurity towards it would probably ruin it for you

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

I appreciate the reply because you're right. It definitely could but maybe it could potentially do the opposite. All depends on who it is, and the connection with the person. Why let fear destroy me, when I should be looking it in the face. I'm just playing devils advocate here lol I feel these days people move too quickly in relationships and perhaps that's where I am turned off. I've spent years building amazing friendships with people so in order to be in a relationship being friends first is important to me

SW-User

@beautyisnature: well said:) just be open and people will show up,just always respect yourself enough to handle the disappointments

beautyisnature · 31-35, F

Thanks :) I strongly agree. It's good to care about yourself and understand what you deserve before letting anyone into your life. 2016 has been a tough year and it was tough because I learned so much and faced so many things I needed to face. I'm sure it will all come in time. I'm an optimist

SW-User

@beautyisnature: rushing these things never seem to work out anyway 😊