Is it bad not to date someone with kids?

I know I'm not gonna raise someone else's kid.

If their father is not actively in their life and looking after them then I'm not going to be the guy who raises kids that aren't mine.

If that's your criteria, it does make you seem a bit petty.

Why should they plaster that they have children on their profiles??? For a start off, it makes them attractive to paedophiles - the very people that we all want to protect children from.

There's nothing wrong with having a few chats with someone before you bring the topic up, either - it's not like you've been dating for 6 months to a year before he says "By the way, I have 6 children".

There's also nothing saying that you can't be a step parent and one day give those children a half brother or sister.

Its often the source of friction in a relationship, so it makes sense

I don't think it's something to feel bad about. You consider that you will be partly responsible for them as they grow up as you will be involved in their parent's life. If you don't feel up to that or ready then that's just being responsible.

Absolutely not. Kids is an understandable deal breaker in a relationship for several reasons. if you don't want to take on that responsibility for a child that is not yours, you have no obligation to do so.

It's not a bad thing to not date someone with kids. Honestly I can understand how that would cause issues, especially since their kids would always come first.

It's your prerogative. It doesn't bother me personally.

It's said the biggest issues faced in [i]second [/i]marriages, are the kids.

There are pros and cons .. firstly dating has nothing to do with marriage.. but you seem to date for the purpose of marriage.

You can externally date a person first without getting too involved at first and assess the personality first. Most of the times it is we who are unsure of our want .. whether we want a laid-back and relaxed person or someone who is dynamic and vibrant. So until you befriend the person you won't know.

If both have kids, its ok. Else not.

No. You have choices. Choose wisely.

There's nothing wrong with that. It's unfortunate for them but it's your prerogative.