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valentini · 61-69, M
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zeframcochrane · 26-30, M
@valentini This is interesting.
Share more?
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valentini · 61-69, M
@zeframcochrane Ha, what else would you find interesting?
zeframcochrane · 26-30, M
@valentini Well? Why 27? That's awfully older compared to most.
Story sir, details.
Do you regret waiting? Were you in love? What was the reasoning?
Story sir, details.
Do you regret waiting? Were you in love? What was the reasoning?
valentini · 61-69, M
@zeframcochrane Yes, it was older than most especially back in those days.
I didn't plan on 27 as some magic number. I was not holding off for religious reasons. I will say that I did not think much of the idea of too-casual sex or pick-ups. And I didn't exactly trust most of the women I had met previously. They mostly wanted to get married at any cost or simply get knocked up. So much for 70's Women's Lib. I was waiting for someone I could trust, someone I felt right with but not in a "high-horse" religious/moral way. Although I guess what we'd refer to as "morals" or values did play into it.
Do I regret waiting that long? Yes and no. Doing it earlier wouldn't have killed me I suppose but it was what I'd call super-duper wonderful and had that "worth it" quality to it. I don't think anything else with any of those other people would have been as good and would have downgraded the overall value of the experience.
I didn't plan on 27 as some magic number. I was not holding off for religious reasons. I will say that I did not think much of the idea of too-casual sex or pick-ups. And I didn't exactly trust most of the women I had met previously. They mostly wanted to get married at any cost or simply get knocked up. So much for 70's Women's Lib. I was waiting for someone I could trust, someone I felt right with but not in a "high-horse" religious/moral way. Although I guess what we'd refer to as "morals" or values did play into it.
Do I regret waiting that long? Yes and no. Doing it earlier wouldn't have killed me I suppose but it was what I'd call super-duper wonderful and had that "worth it" quality to it. I don't think anything else with any of those other people would have been as good and would have downgraded the overall value of the experience.
zeframcochrane · 26-30, M
@valentini This is what I wanted to hear. As a 24-year-old man still a virgin and waiting for someone I can trust and it's "right" with, this was the reason I asked, a hopeful story.
I wouldn't mind if I had to wait til 28 at this point. In fact I'm getting more comfortable with the idea of being alone as time goes on. Even though there is a girl WAY out of my league and WAY above my social class, that I fancy. A real Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams situation.
I don't expect to have a shot especially with all the factors
against anything potentially happening but that won't stop me from at least trying to win someone like her over. I still tried for plenty of other impossible stuff before and on the rare occasion, I've won.
Granted I've also taken things a step further than you though: I wear a purity/promise ring on my ring finger. Though, like yourself, it has nothing to do with religion or marriage it's just purely a personal values thing that I wear for when I do finally meet someone I love and she actually wants me, I can give her the other ring and she knows my loyalty and my devotion is never something that'll waver. I actually consider it more important than a marriage ring.
I wouldn't mind if I had to wait til 28 at this point. In fact I'm getting more comfortable with the idea of being alone as time goes on. Even though there is a girl WAY out of my league and WAY above my social class, that I fancy. A real Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams situation.
I don't expect to have a shot especially with all the factors
against anything potentially happening but that won't stop me from at least trying to win someone like her over. I still tried for plenty of other impossible stuff before and on the rare occasion, I've won.
Granted I've also taken things a step further than you though: I wear a purity/promise ring on my ring finger. Though, like yourself, it has nothing to do with religion or marriage it's just purely a personal values thing that I wear for when I do finally meet someone I love and she actually wants me, I can give her the other ring and she knows my loyalty and my devotion is never something that'll waver. I actually consider it more important than a marriage ring.