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My boyfriends sister hates me. How do I deal with this?

My boyfriend and I had a bit of drama that made us split twice. (Workplace rumors and dislike from this sister) We recently decided that despite the rumors and hate from his sister we belong together and want to make something work.

I've tried being friendly with her and I'm only met with disdain. She hates the fact that I come over and sleep over at my boyfriend's request and I'm not sure how far she'll go to keep me away. I just heard her angrily complaing over the fact that I'm sleeping over because his house is closer to work and I had to close tonight and open tomorrow. We aren't even talking, I literally just came in to sleep. I guess he didn't say anything because he didn't feel the need to and she's furious, to the point where she had to leave the house because I guess she's that upset. She's also the kind of girl to overreact and take things way out of context and react volitaly to said things.

Is there any advice you guys can give me? I don't know what to do about this but I really don't want to cause a problem. I really love this man, however, and I'm not willing to back down because she has a weird grudge against me. I just want to get along with her and have her stop hating me for no good reason that either him or me can figure out.

I'm also a bit scared for my car at the moment because I heard her saying she was going to grab her bat after coming back from leaving.

So yeah. Some advice would be great.
Maybe she's used to getting what she wants. There's nothing you can do about it. However, your boyfriend can. It's his sister after all! She doesn't have any right to interfere in his love life if you're not creating any trouble for the family. Talk to him about it and tell him to handle her. He should, if he wants you around.
Ginkofishin · 26-30, F
He's been talking to her but I don't think either of us realized how much she hates me until tonight. She went off for 15 minutes to her friend before leaving in a huff. My boyfriend slept through the whole thing. I plan on talking to him tomorrow.
@Ginkofishin: whaaa ! No offense, but he seriously need to grow a pair and deal with this bullshit ! If she hates you for no apparent reason at all, that's her being a stuck up lil *** ....Tell him to make it clear to her that you're not going anywhere and to get used to it.
Fernie · F
Your boyfriend has to grow a set and tell his sister to get stuffed...he is suppose to be on your side
SW-User
If you feel unsafe, tell your BF
Otherwise you can't do much if she's going to be unreasonable
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
my sister in law has hated me for 40+ years so I wouldn't worry about it
Fernie · F
@ajsk13: The thing is though...sisters frequently hate the MAN /brother in law for various reasons...sisters who hate their brothers girlfriends have issues
ajsk13 · 51-55, M
@Fernie: there jealous ,like my sister in law ..shes still not married
Fernie · F
@ajsk13: yeah, jealousy...big issues
Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M
Just so what you're doing, if it passes, all is well, if not I think it would be up to you to go to her and get to the bottom it all
Fernie · F
it's more her boyfriends duty to tell HIS sister to knock it off
Groofydorkgerdo · 56-60, M
@Fernie: It's more her own duty to take control of her own relationships and future.
Fernie · F
@Dorkgerdo: No...it is more his responsibility to tell his sis to butt out of his life...his gf has no power in that house...he does and he is suppose to be on her side not just ignore the situation as so many men do
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
I'm guessing she lives there too right?
If so, she has more of a right to be there than you do.
I'm not saying that to be mean, residents just carry more weight than guests.

The problem here is your boyfriend.
The man you love (who she probably loves too) is letting this happen knowingly. He's the one putting the two of you together and he's the one that needs to straighten that sh*t out.

There's no way being closer to work can make up for what you're subjecting yourself to.
Ginkofishin · 26-30, F
I completely understand, I'm not intentionally trying to upset her. I didn't think that my staying over was going to make her so angry. Neither did my boyfriend when he invited me over so I didn't have to lose sleep tonight. That's why I'm asking for advice, I didn't know she was this angry.
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
@Ginkofishin: Again, I want to make sure you understand I'm not trying to be a jerk to you...

Women can get a little territorial.
I've been through similar situations with mothers and cousins too LOL Is there any way you can talk to her without it ending in violence?

If there's even the slightest possibility she might be your sister-in-law someday, you want to nip this in the bud asap. Family can wreak havoc on the strongest of relationships.
SoulAsylum · 31-35, M
Kick her ass?

 
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