any helpful suggestions?advice?

That's the thing about opening up. You can't just open up for love and acceptance without risking pain and disappointment. Sometimes you have to fail in order to learn. Sometimes you need to learn a lot before you finally succeed. It's far easier to say than do, but you can't advance if you give up.

I think the thing about your situation is that it indicates, among other things, a lack of dependability. If employers cannot depend on you to do a job or if a landlord cannot depend on you to support yourself, how will your dates feel about your dependability?

As always, there's perception and there's reality. I don't know what goes on in their heads or on your dates, but relationships require trust and commitment, and that may be hard to convince someone of without some solid examples or at least more time. I'm sorry you've had to be hurt that way, and that I can't be more help, but life doesn't come without its adversity. Maybe some answer can give you better guidance

so you think its your disability,or rather your financial situation and career that stands in the way more?

Many people our age and above esp want someone who is independent, in work and so on. But it is not everything. I am also disabled, physically. It's a difficult one. Honestly, some people's jobs are boring. Ive come across people who aren't disabled without these problems who find it really hard to find someone too though.

There is none good but God, you are doing as Job did when falsely accused by his friends. I wish to speak to you, to help, possibly to get to know you also.

It is our nature to defend when attacked, but let us be careful that we do not turn to pride to deflect attacks on our worth.

I thought men didn't care about a woman's income. I don't think they do.