any helpful suggestions?advice?

I am a good person with great qualitites, good character, high standards, good morals and values, but..., I am disabled, not my fault, not a physical disability either, and out of my control. Unfortunately, I am unable to work, because I can't hold a job to save my life. I am always running into the same problem every time I try to date, REJECTION, just for being totally honest and truthful about myself. Apparently, my worth is measured by my career, which i do not have one, my living arrangements, and my income and not by me, as an individual, no matter how good of a person I am. I have been hurt so much and so bad by this it's extremely hurtful, frustrating, upsetting, etc. At times, I feel like giving up and just accept that I will never find true love and be loved as much as i have been trying to give to others my entire life. I think its just so unfair, and wrong...I just don't know what to do anymore...

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SW-User

That's the thing about opening up. You can't just open up for love and acceptance without risking pain and disappointment. Sometimes you have to fail in order to learn. Sometimes you need to learn a lot before you finally succeed. It's far easier to say than do, but you can't advance if you give up.

I think the thing about your situation is that it indicates, among other things, a lack of dependability. If employers cannot depend on you to do a job or if a landlord cannot depend on you to support yourself, how will your dates feel about your dependability?

As always, there's perception and there's reality. I don't know what goes on in their heads or on your dates, but relationships require trust and commitment, and that may be hard to convince someone of without some solid examples or at least more time. I'm sorry you've had to be hurt that way, and that I can't be more help, but life doesn't come without its adversity. Maybe some answer can give you better guidance

Quietbeauty · 36-40, F

I have tried to explain this, I am disabled, and can not work, so therefore I do not have a job, I have an income though, and I pay rent, I just live at home