Im getting mixed signals

So I started dating this guy about 2 weeks ago. We go out to dinner and go for a walk are first date. It lasted about 7 hours we really hit it off and he kept telling me how into me he is. We had the opportunity to meet a month ago but I felt like his communication was to slow. He took hours to reply to one message and I got disinterested then one day he hit me up on 3different social media platforms asking if I was still interested. Out first date was a few days after that. Anyways back to the story we have had 3 dates in total . He is always the one to initiate contact with me but once again it takes him awhile to reply. Yesterday we had a date and I got to meet his best friend and his dad. I didnt text him to tell him I made it home safely so when I woke up to a text asking if I made it safe. I replied and he asked how my day was going I also replied back and nothing. . . No reply that was like 10 hours ago. I know he always has his phone so why does he do this. Someone give me some insight please its driving me crazy.

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CestManan · 46-50, F

That is one drawback about cell phones - people don't have much excuse for waiting hours to reply.

He probably likes you but is not "in love" just yet.

Of course there is also that stupid game where people leave someone hanging because they want yo be mysterious or whatever.

thursdaygirl · 22-25, F

I think you're overthinking things. A lot of people, including myself, just don't reply instantly no matter who I'm texting and how much I like them. Half the time I'll read something and chuckle to myself and then go off and do some other thing and then reply when I feel like it hours or even days later. It's a little bit of both feeling like I want to think about how I want to respond and that I hate the idea of feeling like I'm obligated to be responsive when I'm not actually physically with the person because I have a life I'm living!

All that said, I think you should go more on how you feel about the in person interactions and the vibe you get there because that's what's most important I feel.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@thursdaygirl interesting. Maybe you are the one taking too long to reply even if it’s accidental. So he’s trying to match your pace. Tell him to call you next time?

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

This would come as a surprise to some but people have other things to do then to keep on the phone all day and wait for your messages to reply to....

CestManan · 46-50, F

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic Yeah but if someone lives on their phone, then a prompt reply isn't unreasonable.

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

@CestManan A lot of people don't, they have responsibilities. I don't keep my phone's data on most times and only turn it on when I need to talk to someone, I do it to keep distractions away and to conserve battery. No one owes anyone anything, instead this person should have a proper adult conversation instead of playing mind games.

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