Im getting mixed signals

So I started dating this guy about 2 weeks ago. We go out to dinner and go for a walk are first date. It lasted about 7 hours we really hit it off and he kept telling me how into me he is. We had the opportunity to meet a month ago but I felt like his communication was to slow. He took hours to reply to one message and I got disinterested then one day he hit me up on 3different social media platforms asking if I was still interested. Out first date was a few days after that. Anyways back to the story we have had 3 dates in total . He is always the one to initiate contact with me but once again it takes him awhile to reply. Yesterday we had a date and I got to meet his best friend and his dad. I didnt text him to tell him I made it home safely so when I woke up to a text asking if I made it safe. I replied and he asked how my day was going I also replied back and nothing. . . No reply that was like 10 hours ago. I know he always has his phone so why does he do this. Someone give me some insight please its driving me crazy.

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thursdaygirl · 22-25, F

I think you're overthinking things. A lot of people, including myself, just don't reply instantly no matter who I'm texting and how much I like them. Half the time I'll read something and chuckle to myself and then go off and do some other thing and then reply when I feel like it hours or even days later. It's a little bit of both feeling like I want to think about how I want to respond and that I hate the idea of feeling like I'm obligated to be responsive when I'm not actually physically with the person because I have a life I'm living!

All that said, I think you should go more on how you feel about the in person interactions and the vibe you get there because that's what's most important I feel.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@thursdaygirl interesting. Maybe you are the one taking too long to reply even if it’s accidental. So he’s trying to match your pace. Tell him to call you next time?