Why is he staying with me if I am all these things

been with a guy for 5 months now. We are engaged we moved fast he told me he loved me 2 weeks than we got engaged 2 months later it's been great until a week ago he was acting distant finally he told me what was wrong I am shocked I didn't know hr felt this way he said that I was to needy that I was suffocating him that that I worry to much that I am an emotional disaster that if I layoff and don't suffocate him we will be fine that he is not going to consume himself with me he has other responsibilities that I am always complaining that if I am not the man I want that I should break up with him I don't want that I told him than break up with me if you don't like the way I am He said no I am not going to break up with you if he isn't happy with me than why won't he break up with me

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

You moved faster than I would recommend but I won't chastise because sometimes when you know then you just know and it can last forever.
But 99% of the time when someone says that they love you after 2 weeks they cannot possibly know you yet.

Even if they do love you it is still a surface type of love and can easily be confused with lust, desperation, loneliness and other needs and emotions that do not make a good foundation for long term success.

I don't care for bullshit so personally I would consider his comments a likely attempt to demean and control me. Especially since it was out of the blue. Either that or he has serious issues with kindness and communication.

I would break up and take some space and focus on my mental health.
If he is truly in love he will reach out. Only you know if you are clingy and suffocating.
But whatever the case always be yourself. You are at an age where you should know if you've heard this type of complaint before or not.
His delivery was rude and sounds like a sign of things to come.