What is the difference between a white man dating a black woman and a black man dating a white woman?

@HannahSky There is no such stereotype in Manchester, it's always been an equalitarian city since before I was born. How is it a "trophy"? 🤔

@Crazychick it's not real, it goes back to race relations in the US and slavery

@HannahSky I meant how is it a "trophy" one way but not the other? I don't see how it can be. 🤔

@Crazychick black men are or were devalued in society as were black women and to have a relationship with another race, white, is seen as a conquest, taking a white woman away from the white man. None of it is real and it's extremely racist and [b]not[/b] my view at all.

@HannahSky I'm not saying it's your view, I'm just trying to find out what difference it makes which gender is which race.

"seen as a conquest, taking a white woman away from the white man"

So what's taking a white man away from a white woman? Isn't that seen as a "conquest" as well? Not that we believe in "conquests" here, we don't. I'm just trying to understand what that is all about.

@Crazychick white men have been taking women from different races forever, through slavery, raping, owning etc, black men weren't allowed to be with any other races, literally, so it's got this long history rooted in racism and slavery in the US.
It just doesn't have the same history or effect in the reverse scenario.
Things are changing, but it has deep roots when you look at the history in the US with slavery.
Do most people think this all the time, probably not, depending on where you're from.

@HannahSky I'm from Manchester, hence my early reference to it in this thread. We're an equalitarian city, we are very anti-racism, very anti-sexism and very anti-all round discrimination. As Bob Marley would say, we're sick and tired of the ism schism. We were already sick of that before Bob Marley sang those words, and that was before I was born.

The lad I know in my street who is dating a black girl, if he thought in terms of "conquests" would surely consider his girlfriend a conquest to be proud of since she was one of the top athletes in school. Didn't history have examples like that?

@Crazychick I personally don't know people who are seriously hung up on race. I live in a very diverse area.
I think what you're saying is like the prom king and queen, or getting the most popular girl in school, that kind of social thing goes on for sure, but it's not related to race. It's a whole other dynamic lol popular vs not

Depending on your culture there are many taboo relationships. I dated a Jewish girl... it’s no big deal where I live but some places are extremely anti Semitic.@Crazychick