Dating anxiety anyone?

I see a pretty girl. I don't see a ring. A voice says "go for it. What is the worst she can say? No? That's the same answer as if you do nothing." Me: ok, I'll ask her for dinner. Before I can even move, another voice says "Dude, are you really gonna put her through this. I know you own a mirror. Do you honestly think she woke up this morning hoping for .......YOU to come in to her life? Walk away. She's better off without you anyway." But by then I've been staring at her for 10 seconds. Now she thinks I'm a psychopath stalking her. I'll just leave.

A month later I come in. I see her. I smile as I walk by. She doesn't even acknowledge my existence. Yep, she hates me. Never come here again.

Am I the only one who has these things happen to me? Is it just anxiety? Do I really scare people? Or is it all paranoia that I'm not good enough for anybody?

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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M

the best way to alleviate this sort of stress is to not look too fAR AHEAD. if you talk to a girl its not to have sex,become her boyfriend or even ask her out, you talk to a girl because you want to talk to her,you say hello with no other intention then to say hello. so your first objective is simple, say "hi, how are you?" , you're just saying hello to someone, that's all.your stress comes in because you havent spoken to her yet and you are already thinking of "you to come in her life", thats too much pressure on yourself, you're not trying to enter her life, you,re saying hello to some random person.