Is it possible

I meet a new guy we have been on 2 dates and he told me that he like me a lot I told how do you know you don't even know me he said he just knows that we are ment to be. Do you think is is possible to feel that strongly about soneone so soon?

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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Some men latch on to anything quickly. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you but 2 dates doesn’t show a person’s true personality. He needs to calm down.

Kwek00 · 41-45, M

@Keepitsimple Is this really a gender thing? 😅 I thought it was a human thing.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

@Kwek00 True..women are even worse 😂

Kwek00 · 41-45, M

@Keepitsimple That's not something I said. But yeah, I don't know this persons' situation. But people that really want something or long for something, sometimes really get their hopes up and take what is in front of them as some sort of guarantee to fill in the longing they have. To kinda fill in the void that they are experiencing. It can be a beautifull thing if it works out, it can be quite crushing if it's not. I think it's a really human thing to do.

There are of course also other reasons. Like people that get smitten and entranced by looks, and suddenly take attractions to aesthics to the same level as liking someones personality. That happens too. I sometimes wonder when my nephew is going to wake up one day and find out that the got married to a pair of boobs. Looking at some of his conversations about his wife over the course of the years, I think he's slowly getting to the point where he's finding out that tits don't make the person. So that happens too, and that is also not just a male thing. Just look at stories of girls that believe the jock they found is the right person for them, only to get to know him over time and have these early assessments crushed.

But in both examples, it's still fair to say that people can experience deep feelings towards someone from the first moment they see eachother. Only time and getting to know eachother teaches you if these things hold up.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

@Kwek00 I think you can get a sense of a person and want to know more but 2 dates is too soon to be told that somebody really likes you. That’s just my opinion. Still, it’s nice to hear and exciting.

Kwek00 · 41-45, M

@Keepitsimple Well, I absolutely agree with that... unless you meet this person that is super duper open about themselves and just kinda opens up totally in 2 dates. Most of these super duper open books, aren't liked by people. Because it kinda demistifies people from the get-go, and there seems to be longing for people to find someone with some mysticism (as in open questions, things you can wonder about) to make them intresting. Ussually people that are who they are, aren't really succesful at the dating game.