My ex wants to meet my fiancé “for our daughter’s safety.” Should I allow this?

Your daughter is as much his as she is yours and it's only natural that he expresses concern for her safety with another man coming on the scene. If for no other reason that to give himself peace of mind.

I certainly know that if I had a daughter that someone else was going to be a potential surrogate father to I'd want to make sure they were above board.

No matter the problems that arose between the two of you she will always be his daughter.

I think you’re probably the only person that can answer this for yourself. You know your ex. Does he genuinely want to meet your fiancé for that reason? If so, sure let them meet. If you think there is any other more sinister reasons for your ex wanting to meet, then I’d be cautious.

I think that it's normal for a parent to wanna meet someone that's going to be spending a lot of time around their child.

He cannot guarantee her safety from meeting him. Even if he determines your fiance is the devil, there is nothing he can do about. Your ex has issues.

Yes just let them meet it will happen eventually anyways and it will probably put your ex's mind at ease

Update typo: It’s not unrealistic for you to have a background check done for your ex.that should suffice. Also, say “I married you didn’t I?Are you still Hiding omething from me?” If your FIANCÉ objects on the face of sincerely being concerned for your daughters welfare and the sanity of a father, then I would be worried. No sane man would object.

He's also the parent, he has a right to see who is going to be spending a lot of time with his child. I wouldn't let him spy on your life, but denying him is very selfish on your part.

well this could go either way. it might bring him peace or it might cause him anxiety. if you’re confident in your new partner it could only bring him peace right?

If your ex decides that your fiance isn't good for your kid, would you break up with fiance? No, right then his opinion holds any importance.

Tell him to kiss it, that he doesn't trust your judgement and is exhibiting gross jealous behavior.

What would be wrong with the two meeting?

What of they fight?

Yes you should.

Yes