Not to brag... I'm brown and handsome. I am relatively rich by middle-income country standards. I am extremely smart (over 160 IQ) ....

@4meAndyou is this female dating advice. Do you read this garbage?

@lookingForLostFriendHere No, but when you started asking for advice I did a quick search. I did think you were asking for help. I was wrong.

Now that I have more information, I think being rude is part of your problem. It sounds as though you drive people away with your false superiority complex, completely unaware that you make yourself unattractive.

@4meAndyou no no. You are getting me all wrong. It was not meant to be a personal attack on you. Just that I think most dating advice out there is garbage. I need advice from personal experience.

But thank you for trying to help. Apologise for offending you. No offence intended

@lookingForLostFriendHere I used to be attracted to men who were far too handsome. Based on experience, and from the inevitable shallow and rude comments they would make if I dared to speak to them, I always assumed, in advance that they would suffer from superiority complexes.

From another perspective, I have heard that women who are very beautiful have been hit on thousands of times, and they are not interested in being picked up by strangers.

@4meAndyou are you in a long-term rlnship now?

What's your guy like? And do you think you look great? Just curious

@lookingForLostFriendHere I have an average appearance. My ego is not overly inflated, I am divorced and no one on earth can ever make me enter into another long term relationship after what I endured there. I have a good friend, a former lover, and he is annoying and yet I still care about him. He is dying, and is in the hospital right now.

@4meAndyou sad story. The Lord help your friend

were you married to the guy you wanted or did you settle? Just curious

And perhaps 'love' can make you get into a long-term relationship again. Love can make you do strange things

@lookingForLostFriendHere No, the only thing that would make me get into another relationship is being held at gunpoint...and not even then.

My taste in men is horrible...really horrible. But I should say that I always get what I THINK I want, then later on, I find out that I don't want what I've got. I've been married three times. Walked out on all three of them.

@4meAndyou maybe you are searching for perfection in which case we all know it does't exist. Love also has a lot to do with commitment. Unless all 3 men were abusive then I'm a bit surprised you walked out on all of them

@lookingForLostFriendHere Wrong. I am not searching at all. I am just not willing to stay married to men who cheat on me after I walk in on them unexpectedly and there is a strange girl in my house...usually a snotty one who has no idea I am the wife. If you call that perfection, have another think.

And I am not willing to be physically hit or abused or screamed at by a partner who was obviously hiding his mental illness when I met him, and who gradually succumbed to it.

@4meAndyou wow. were you attracted to bad boys?

@lookingForLostFriendHere Yes.

@4meAndyou I think he's looking for confirmation that he's handsome and smart. Such things are in the eyes of the beholder.

@Heartlander We all want to be smart. Especially me! 😂 But beauty is in the eye of the beholder...always. A really handsome looking man can open his mouth, horrible things come out, and then he might as well be Frankenstein...😂